My boyfriend has an awesome job, and he is pretty responsible. His family situation is complicated, the bottom line?
His mother(wonderful lady) has a drinking/gambling problem...
My boyfriend is constantly helping her out. Going to work for her (they both work at the same company) for free. Lending her money, without expecting it back.
I feel bad for him. He has such a big heart. He thinks he's helping her, and I just feel all he's really doing is enabling her to continue with her addictions. On top of it...his older sister is dating a much older guy, and recently got pregnant. The two of them had no where to go seeing they were evicted from their previous apartment. And because my bf lives in a 2 bedroom apartment, his family left him with no choice but to take his sister, and her bf in. He's an awesome bf, I just don't know what to do.
2006-12-06 03:27:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its his family.In a lot of societies what he is doing is normal.Just stand by him not criticising,and he will come to respect and love you even more.
2006-12-06 03:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by siaosi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you just have to be practical.
Your boyfriend has a lot of family baggage. He doesn't know how to say NO. Are you prepared to deal with that the rest of you life. Just think about if you get married and have children with him. Is it going to be fair to you and your kids? Think about it.
2006-12-06 11:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything cause he has to be the one to do it. If you force him to see what you see ,you may be seeing your way out. He will come around & get enough but it has to be when he is tired. Just be there for him when he goes off on them all is the best I can say for now.
2006-12-06 11:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometime, family is quite important for a man. respect his point of view/thinking. if u are rather unhappy if the way how his get things done, both of u should slowly work out a solution.
2006-12-06 11:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by Godo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf sounds like a sweet guy. Maybe you are trying to rescue him from his family?? Or maybe not. Dunno. But he sounds like he needs to do a lot of work on himself before he could be husband material. I know from experience, stay away from the ones with "mommy/sister" baggage. It will hurt you and your future kids. Just try to be his friend but thats it.
2006-12-06 11:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by cheese food product 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to do anything except be there to emotionally support him. It sounds like he needs you to understand him.
2006-12-06 11:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the seems so nice.... you should telll them to kick there asses out that's there problem not his if the family won't help her then he shouldn't that's no fair that they are doing that to him
2006-12-06 11:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by Deja Vu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋