ok theres this guy that i like,an he just so happens to be my maniger at wor.hes about 5 years older then me.but i really like him and i finly told him how i felt. so then he starts coin over to my house an we make out...but then once i ask him how he feels he says he doesnt want a realatinship right now an he doesnt want 2 be commited..........then i ask him if he even sees me as more then just a friend. he tells me idk. iam so confuse he acts like he cair but when i want 2 be more then friends he backs away...what does this mean? am i just waisting my time?
2006-12-06 03:26:02 · 12 answers · asked by AUBRIE L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Coming from a guy, those answers seem like he wants to get in your pants, play around a bit, but you're the "the one" he would want in an actual commited relationship. Wait for the guy who is head over heels for you. You'll know it when it happens.
2006-12-06 03:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by rwdrumz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always say turn the problem around and put yourself in someone else's shoes. Your friend fancies someone, they come round and make out. He tells your friend he doesn't want a relationship or to be commited. What would you say to your friend??? It's hard to stomach but I think he is being honest. You deserve a lot more. Don't give him anything more of yourself until he is ready to make a relationship work with you.
2006-12-06 11:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...wow flashbacks....we won't even talk about how this guy is your manager. I'm sorry hun becuase i know what its like to get a slap in the face like this but he is only in it for the booty. If you want to be sure just tell him that your not doing anything with him anymore unless he committs to you. that should get you your answer. If he starts to say your being unreasonable or starts to convince you to change your mind on the plan then sweetie he is only using you for the convience. If a guy is serious about going somewhere with you then he'll get serious about what will make you happy. If he keeps blowing you off or avioding answering you (the whole idk game) then he isn't really concerned about what will make you happy and he knows you won't like the truthful answer. His only concern is how much free booty he's going to get. You deserve alot better than this slimeball. If your scared he might fire you for breaking it off with him than you should start looking for another job becuase he's not worth your time or your labor.
2006-12-06 11:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by teeny tiny KT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are wasting your time. He is probably scared of being accused of abusing his position of authority as your manager, which could be the case. You only made out, what do you expect, him to marry you??? Work relationships rarely work out, and you cannot force someone to commit to you, so just deal with it, and don't become too attached before its too late any you become more heartbroken!
2006-12-06 11:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by ShellBell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes... you are just wasting your time. There is nothing wrong with the 5 years thing, but there is something wrong when he doesn't want to commit.
It's time for you to back off and see how he reacts.
peace, love
-nick
2006-12-06 11:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by Cholas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he does not want to be commited then just wait and find someone else. Some will come up.
2006-12-06 11:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by mexico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems lyk u r really in luv wid him nd its only one way. gve sum time nd plz stop asking or forcing him to lyk u . u have to take it easy, as u know if u ask a boi they will act lyk they r all dat. nd it also seems lyk he doesnt lyk u its normal to find certain ppl attractive nd u will get over it. but never force ne1 to lyk u
2006-12-06 11:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe,,, when you told him you like him he was thinking he has a chance to get laid.... people change there minds like clothes though.... a lot of times people say they dont want a relationship but they end up having one.... and buy saying thay he probly wants to play the field...
2006-12-06 11:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he wants is someone for a booty call. Leave it be. Sounds like a right c*ck to me
2006-12-06 11:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by JT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all it sounds like is that hes trying to get in your pants i would ditch him hes not worth your time find someone who wants to be with you
2006-12-06 11:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by benny g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋