When something bad happens, all you need is one person. It doesn't matter what the rest of the world thinks; all you need is one good friend who understands you and will love you no matter what mistakes you make. But i have no one. There is not a soul that i can talk to. I have made a mistake, and i don't have the guts to talk about it. I physically cant talk. I would come out and tell the truth- but there isn't one. There's no big secret, i just messed up. But that makes me look like a horrible person. Who would be that irresponsible on purpose? I used to be the one that everyone trusted. I was always the responsible one and everyone depended on me. Now i am nothing but a failure and a burden to all those around me. I would need an excuse to gain trust- but i don't want to gain trust by telling a lie. I cannot live my life that way anymore. So i have decided that i am better off alone. I dont want anyome to get hurt because of me.Redemption is too far away for me now. I must start ove
2006-12-06 03:22:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
GOD has already forgiven you, now all you have to do is forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Nobody is ever better off alone. The human spirit is not made that way. So, forgive yourself and get back to life. Life is too short to get hung up on what we should have dones. All you can do is do better in the future.
2006-12-06 03:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by conf 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, reading the rest of your message confirmed the answer I was going to give you--write. You seem to be good at it, and it always helped me. When I had a problem I would write it on paper--just pour everything I had onto the paper. Sometimes I had to write the same thing in different ways for days. Sometimes I would give my writing to someone to look at--the person I hurt, or who had hurt me. Sometimes I would rip it up.
Secondly, redemption is NEVER too far away. There was a time in my life when I was so upset I didn't want to live anymore, but by writing down my problems I learned to evaluate myself better. Once you've written something 5 times and thought about it, its a lot easier to talk about it.
Not sure what you religion is (I really didn't have one for a while), but Christianity says that no one is ever beyond redemption--just take a look at the book of Jonah--he was full of hate, ran away from God, ran away from everything--yet God used him to do great things.
Don't sell yourself short!
2006-12-06 11:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you being so hard on yourself? Do you not know that you are humane and imperfect? You will make mistakes and that's okay?
Let there be no judgment, only awareness. You can choose differently next time. As long as you see redemption far away, it will be. However, if you reach out to yourself with compassion and love, you can find healing. You must love yourself unconditionally in order to receive unconditional love from another. People may love you unconditionally, but you will only be able to experience that love to the extent that you love yourself. They can love you their way, but you can only receive it your way.
Be alone for a time, but not to criticize, belittle or condemn. Get to know yourself and learn to love yourself. You will find that you are never alone...you have yourself.
2006-12-06 11:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I found a great Psychologist in my town but I am hoping I could help... You see I have so many things that go on because of my A. D. H. D. that I now know quite a bit... first tell us what is bugging you!
2006-12-06 11:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Not Known To Me. The Voter ;~`}= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends and family love and respect you for who you are. They don't pass judgement on you and are there to support you. That's what they do. If they don't, then they are the ones that should be ashamed.
People make mistakes. If they can admit it, ask for help, and not do it again, then forgiveness should be given. Talk to your closest friends or family. They love you for who you are and will be the ones to help you through this.
2006-12-06 11:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
aww man, i'm sorry to hear that ^ hunny. thats a horrible feeling to have *hugs* ^
i agree, you should have that 1 person (whoever that person may be) to be there for you, no matter what.
you shouldnt feel alone ^ and nor should you give up on yourself, you have a life that should be forfilled to the max.
i hope things do get better for you ^ take good care, xx
2006-12-06 11:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by CMJohnson-1988 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You arent the only one that has ever messed up. I dont believe you are a horrible person, you are one who made a mistake. Forgive yourself please.
If you want to talk, email or message me.
Take care-
Cat
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2006-12-06 11:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by CatLambe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to fine somebody who will just listen. Nothing is ever so horrible that there is no redemption. Good luck to you. If there is someone you email a lot on here try using them as your sounding board.
2006-12-06 11:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by toff 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lighten your heart and mind and forgive yourself because I am sure you are not that horrible. We all make mistakes and we really do learn from them. Do not alienate yourself it is not healthy for you. Redemption is not that far away. Please seek out a priest or minister and have your confession heard. Be strong you will succeed.
2006-12-06 11:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Feline05 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, things happen. Go talk to a priest, rabbi, minister, or anyone that you think can help you with your problem. Keeping it bottled up inside you is just going to make you feel more lousy. Good luck.
2006-12-06 11:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋