potty training question?

Question

i am having really hard time potty taining my daughter. she was a bit slow on her talking, so as a result a bit behind on when we started potty training her, as she couldnt understand what we would say to her. she is now nearly 3, and no closer to what she was when we first started training her. we let her run around the house without a nappy on, with the hope that if she does go to the toilet, she will notice, and then realise that when she goes she needs to be on the potty. we have tried asking her reg if she needs to go, she always says no! and keeping her in the nappy and when we change her sitting her on the potty for a while after. we have never told her off for making a mess, and we reward her if shew does well. but we are still not getting any result. any ideas? i feel really guilty she is still in nappies at her age, but nothink seems to be working or having any effect. another problem is that the really likes her nappies! when she doesnt have one on, she asks!!! any ideas??

Answer 1

I used a reward chart with my daughter. She got to put a sticker on her chart whenever she used the potty. It sounds like you are doing all the right things. Just try to be patient. There are lots of kids who don't potty train until they are 3 1/2. Don't feel bad about your parenting. You are doing a good job. If she has some developmental delays, then that may be why it is taking her a little longer. If you are concerned about that then just talk to her pediatrician. Good luck, and don't worry, she will get it eventually.

Answer 2

The only thing I can suggest is put on the potty ever half hour. Does she have her own potty chair or a special seat for the toilet? She needs to feel comfortable about sitting on the potty and does not think she is going to fall in. Also try ever time you go to the potty take her with you show her how you do it and if she has her own potty chair have her sit on it when you are sitting on the big potty. Try giving her a book to look at or toy to play with while sitting on the toilet. Good Luck.

Answer 3

My little girl knew how to go to the toilet, she just didn't WANT to... after she turned 3 she was still in pull-ups during the day and diapers during the night. I had had enough! We have tried the stickers on the chart, we had tried letting her run around the house naked, we even sat her in the naughty chair when she did it in her panties (not recommended they say)... So I finally just settled for bribery.

I went to the dollar store and just bought a whole buch of cheap toys. I asked my mom and my grandma if they could go and buy some little toys also. I put all these little toys in a big pretty gift bag and stuck a big bouncy ribbon it.

I told her if she pee-peed in the potty, she can get ONE grab. Poo-Poo would get her TWO grabs. I cannot begin to tell you how well this worked. She did, however, try to trick us by going pee-pee over and over again even when she didn't need to; but at least she went on the toilet! When all the toys ran out, I just told her "they're all gone, sorry!" and she still continued to go to the toilet.

If I would have thought to do this a long time ago I would have saved SOOOOOO much money in pull-ups and diapers! Try it, you never know, you may just have a greedy little girl like mine :-)

Answer 4

I am the mother of an 8 year old boy and a 5 year old girl. I had them poty trained at 2 years old. I think that is a magic age, but if you've missed that, then I suggest this..and I do daycare so I know it works...done it plenty of times. Too many parents let theeir children wear pull-ups..I don't care what you say, they are just diapers that they can pull up and down...not good. One kid I had was 3 1/2 and still wouldn't use the toilet. (I know it was because of the pull-ups).. Finally I had the parents agree to never use pull-ups again, even when he went home. We told them that the store only sells them to children under 3 years old, and now that he was 3 1/2 they were not allowed to buy them. We even had someone in the store that the kid didn't know explain it to him so he believed it. Then, believe me, you have to be ready for a mess, you let them soil themselves and make them take off the wet clothes themselves....no matter how bad it makes you feel. I have a playroom in the basement that is a floor that can just be mopped, so luckily this room is where the boy had his accident. He was shocked that I would not change him..he did cry, but that is OK....he finally got the picture, that this is IT....he never had another accident again.....a year later......still good!!!! It works...don't be afraid to take away nappies, diapers, pull-ups or what ever and make them be responsible for cleaning up any messes that happen. I used the reward sticker chart for my kids at 2 years old and it worked fine, along with letting them feel how it was to be messy...but once they hit 3 years old...it's harder and you have to get tough! Good Luck...he won't be in diapers when he gets married, hopefully!

Answer 5

I am the mom of 4 kids and each child is different. My daughter decided she would be a big girl one day at 21/2 and has been potty trained ever since. My boys on the other hand were stubborn. My oldest was 31/2 when he decided he wanted to go in the play area of giant eagle and when he learned he had to be potty trained he worked until he suceeded. My middle son wanted to go to school like his big brother and when he learned he had to be potty trained he started trying. My youngest son was the most difficult but he has autism and he really did not speak or understand why it was important but even he was trained by age 4. Find something to motivate her, something she really is interested in and shoot for it. Please remember it has to be her idea though kids like to have control and this is one area where they do. Be patient and good luck!

Answer 6

You should purchase a potty seat he can use at the grownup potty, or you'll make him use the youngster. Either method you'll be able to usually have got to keep in the toilet with him till he is going for the primary few months of potty coaching. Don't assume him to be equipped to head in there and care for it himself. Grab a ebook and plant your self till he is going. Don't make it disturbing. You can present a gift of a few variety if he makes use of both potty (like 2 m&m's). Be sufferer despite the fact that he is not and do not fear. Training takes time.

Answer 7

I had to potty train my daughter in a week for daycare, or they would've charged me over 200 a week.
So what I did was I just took her pampers off and let her pick her underwear. Made it exciting to wear Princess undies. Also everytime I went potty, I took her with me to show her...Mommy, you are her role model, show her how great it is. And last, she had many accidents and I would tap her bottom if she had an accident, remind her that it was an accident, but she will get a tap if she goes in her panties. I know some people use a different method, and only you know your daughter. That's what worked for me. And she was potty trained in a week. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Don't just *ask* her if she has to go, take her to the toilet and sit her there! The reward her if she goes, with whatever makes her happy. I would say every half an hour for 3-5 minutes.

And I second the buy her pretty underwear. Take her shopping with you and let her pick.

And once you are ready have the diaper fairy come and take them her diapers away to a baby that need them and leave her something cool!

Answer 9

My daughter was 3 1/2 before she was potty trained, and had to wear pull-ups at night until she was 4. There's nothing wrong with this, just every kid develops at different rates.

Answer 10

atleast your trying my sister has a 3 year old who is almost 4 not trained yet and she don't even try she's so lazy well I have had 3 so I'll try to help you out trust me I don't know if I've perfected it my first one it was hard I was young with hardly any patience I'd wait about 15-20 minutes after food or drink sit her on her potty I lightly pushed her belly told her if she felt something like that she had to go potty if she pottied I'd praise her if she pottied on herself she had to clean out her own underwear my second one took to it so easy I barely had to do anything and she never has accidents I haven't trained my son yet he just turned 2 today so I have no experience with a boy.