I love my man alot...just yesterday I posted that I wanna get married someday but he just told me he has a baby by another woman...my heart is so broken, we been together for two years off and on and he actually cheated in january on me when we wre still talking...I cried so much...it hurts that i have to take the back seat now to this "baby mama" as he calls it...ugh it always happens to me...every man I love ends up getting some girl preg and im not joking. my very first love had a child then a recent breakup w my other ex now him...ugh God why is it spiraling like this! Damnit I love him and I know I will get so jealous and everythime he mentions or sees the child i will want to ugh Damn!!!!!!!!!! What do i do as a good gf? What can I do to get rid of this jealous rage!
2006-12-06 03:21:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What do you do?! You lose this guy, improve yourself, your life, your career AND THEN you find another man! He hid something like a child from you after two years?! This is not a man you should marry or one that you want as the future father of your children! Especially due to the fact that he was so ashamed of his child that he couldn't even tell you about it. Like the other guys, he is forever linked to another woman.
And he cheated once before?! Girl, you deserve better. You're a beautiful sista. Re-evaluate yourself and stop finding guys the same way! Don't wait until one of these fools brings you a disease or a baby! Perfect yourself first and a good man will just show up, I kid you not. I did the exact same thing and I found a good man without kids. We're getting married in August.
2006-12-06 03:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seem to have a pattern of chosing the same kind of men. Why are you still with a man who cheated. Where is the trust factor? If you are willing to stand by him then you need to come to terms with your jealousy issue, this baby did not ask to be born and that's where all the focus should be placed. I hope your boyfriend is strong in this relationship and not deal with the other female on an intimate level. Communication has always been the key so keep it open.
2006-12-06 11:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I'm sooo sorry!! Tell him how you feel. Talk though, don't yell or blame. I'd be most upset that he cheated on you. I know you love him girl, but can you trust him anymore?? And don't be mad at the poor little baby who's caught in the middle of this. Your bf needs to act like a man and be in his baby's life, but unfortunately that means he'll be in baby mama's life too. You have a tough decision to make.. Do you back him up, or let him go for cheating on you (which is the real problem here)? I hope you find a man who's going to think of you FIRST, and I hope you find a real man cuz you deserve it!!!
2006-12-06 11:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by WiccaWoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be pissed! Don't lost the rage, lose the loser! If you stay with him you will have to hear about the other woman and child every day of your life. There is a guy out there that will love you and treat you like you deserve to be treated. If you really want to make it work, give him ONE more chance. From my experience, once a cheater, always a cheater, but I'm sure there are exceptions. He may think it's ok if you let him stay though. Don't put up with crap you don't need though...You're better than that.
2006-12-06 11:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by Christy K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you need to take a very long hard look at yourself, evaluate and be honest. Why do you keep choosing men that are willing to cause you such pain. You deserve better. And I would move on far away from this man. Your heart will eventually heal. Take a break and maybe even consider getting some counseling to figure out why you keep choosing these types of men, it is more to do with you. Good luck to you and God bless****
2006-12-06 11:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you need to ask him where he See's you guys in a relationship & if he is willing to give up those cheating ways make it work & love that baby cause it is a part of him no matter what. Now if he continues with those ho-ish ways find you someone that will treat your love special not like a toy.
2006-12-06 11:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him. Find someone that u know will not cheat on u. It may take awhile to find the right person but someone is out there for u.
2006-12-06 11:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by mexico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him enough you can make it work.if your not sure you might need some time by yourself to figure out what you want and need.the longer you keep this inside the harder it's going to be.we all show different types of love,but you and only you can make that decision.
2006-12-06 11:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to here of your situation. Just remember the universe tends to unfold as it should. Your happiness is right around the corner
2006-12-06 11:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave this two timing b*** and find some one who means you well. and wont cheat on you
Good Luck
2006-12-06 11:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by ??? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋