Um, About 8 months ago, I got out of foster care.so,i now live with my real mom.for these 8 months its been hell. my brother hates me and my mom treats me very differently, i feel so depressed and upset inside. i thought, maybe i could call my caseworker and ask her to talk with me about it, but i'm afraid that my mom will find out and get upset. i don't know what to do.I feel like i'm about to burst !!!
2006-12-06 03:19:04 · 16 answers · asked by one_gifted_genius 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
as a teacher and a parent who has adopted foster children, you should first remember why you were put in foster care... then, there should be follow up counseling sessions and connection with the case worker and with your family for the next six months (0r at least that is how it is in Louisiana...) if you were in foster care for any length of time, there should be an action plan set in effect and that should provide for counseling and mental health issues... Your brother may feel that way because (not knowing your situation) he may have been led to believe that it was your fault for the separation or whatever... If your mom is serious about you remaining with her, she should be willing to talk with you and your brother... I would suggest you try being honest with her, make sure you use "I" statements so that it is not accusatory in nature... Try speaking with your physician about the depression feelings... Don't do anything rash, mainly because you have a "case" and it could be worse than foster care... Hope this helps, but I know there are a lot of issues all around and hard feelings need to be aired... Find something POSITIVE that makes you happy... Good luck... Hope this helps!!! been there done that!!
2006-12-06 05:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Its me!!! :) 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is there a guidance counselor at school you can talk with? When I was having some major problems at home I talked with a counselor I could trust. You could also use the counselor's phone at the school to call you caseworker and your mom would never find out. Also, although I don't normally condone lying, you could tell your mom you were involved at an after-school activity and instead have the counselor meet with you somewhere.
Definetely get some help, you don't need to feel like that. I hope that you and your mom and brother can work things out, but if not you really need to do whats best for you.
2006-12-06 03:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps there's some very good reasons you were in foster care.
Your caseworker should be one who can provide you with some answers. It wouldnt hurt to speak with your mom, to let her know what you're feeling. Or perhaps the family you lived with. If neither helps, then I'd strongly suggest you speak to your caseworker. Since this appears to be the only individual who apparantly knows you, and hopefully able to provide you with some answers. Do something to help yourself and your situation. The best of luck to you.
2006-12-06 03:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first try talking with your mother about it. If she does not do anything about it. Then talk to your caseworker. Your mother should be there for you since she is after all you real mother. As far as your brother he could be jealous. Again, talk to your mom first- if nothing comes out of it- then call your caseworker.
2006-12-06 03:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your caseworker is looking out for your best interest. That is why you have one because at one point no one was looking out for your best interest and a case worker had to take over. Let your mom get upset you can't worry about that. She is an adult and you need someone to be there for you. And its apparently not her. You need caring adult advise. You deserve it.
2006-12-06 03:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is talk to some-one. Talk to your case worker. Explain to her/him your concerns about your mom and he/she will do whats in your best interest. The worst thing for you to do is not talk to some-one.
It sounds like things are pretty rough for you right now. No matter what, you must keep your head up, things will get better. Always remember that your not alone.
If you need to talk to some-one right away and you can't find a friend feel free to send me an e-mai, I'm free to talk if you need some-one.
2006-12-06 03:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by Castle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is that you are going to have to go through your case worker to get the help you need. And remember the the truth WILL set you free. Don't lie about what is going on, because that will just the situation worse.
peace, love
-nick
2006-12-06 03:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely call your case worker . Call her now! You need a loving environment and you are not in one at the moment and haven´t been since you moved back in with your mother
2006-12-06 03:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call your caseworker and talk to her about your situation.
2006-12-06 03:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the case worker and tell her how you feel maybe being in a dirrent family's home will be better for you
2006-12-06 03:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋