My boyfriend and I want to move in together, we've been dating for 4 and a half years, I'm 22 and he's 25. My dad is so against this, how do I tell him? What if he disowns me?
2006-12-06 03:12:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell your dad your an adult now and are going to make decisions based on your morals not his. If he throws a fit, just know its temporary, I doubt he'll disown you, either way he'll get over it, they all do. good luck.
2006-12-06 03:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't disown you, he'll just be angry.
And besides, you're 22. Time for you to spread your wings and move out of the house. Sounds like dad is having a hard time letting somone else support you.
He loves you, and probably thinks you're replacing him. Explain that he'll always be your dad, and nothing will ever change that. But at the same time, you need to move out and live your life.
2006-12-06 11:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not do this...
My mom has ALWAYS told me to not move in with your significant other before marriage unless you have a wedding date.
This will not be okay because he is NOT obligated to come home to you every night, and it is just like you are having a room mate.
Wait until you at least have a wedding date before you move in together, or TRUST ME you will NOT end up getting married, and if you do, you will get divorced.
The percentage of people who have moved in with their significant other and have lasted is only 20%.
You have an 80% chance of lasting if you do not move in with your significant other. These are world wide percents!!
2006-12-06 11:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you engaged? Are you ready to live together? Are you ready for your finances to become mingled? Are you ready to have no privacy and no place to go if you get in a fight? Are you ready for the backlash from your family? Are you aware that many churches WON'T marry you if you are cohabitating?
I only allowed my man to move in with me
a) after we got engaged
b) because his lease was up, and it was stupid for us to pay mortgage and rent when I owned my home and it was a financial decision for him to move in with me
c) I had disowned MY parents long before I met him - so I didnt have to worry about their reprisal
2006-12-06 11:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are an adult! so what if he disowns you, yes he is your father but you are a woman who is embarking on her journey with the man she loves - there is no strength or sense in living your life based upon the feelings of others - thats why so many people are snobs - i say move in with your boyfriend - geeeee! my bf and i have been dating for 3 months and if he asked, i would move in with him!
2006-12-06 11:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by thetruth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you really ready for a 24/7-365 commitment? Your dad will always love you, but he is looking out for you and your best interests. No dad wants their little girl to move out before their special day. Please think about this before you commit to something this life changing.
2006-12-06 11:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by Feline05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I think that this is a good idea, because you never know someone until you live with them. Living with him, you may find out things about him that you just can't live with.
As for your dad. He's being ridiculous. You are an adult. He should let you be one.
2006-12-06 11:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by KellyBelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you still live at home, you should probably get your own place. That way, you can have the bf over whenever, but you can also tell him to leave if you are studying, or just want some alone time.
2006-12-06 11:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by Lt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he will disown you for it. But you need to do what you think is right. Just tell him you're going to. He'll deal with it eventually.
2006-12-06 11:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens but it may put a damper on both relationships b/f and daddy. Do what's in your heart.
2006-12-06 11:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by Stacye S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋