My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for almost 7 years and we have a four year old son. We have had "the talk" numerous times with the same result he always has the same answer: "I don't know what I want!" My wuestion sis should I stay in this relationship or should I ut my losses and try and make a go of it on my own? We get along great most of the time but then he goes through spells of not coing around for days at a time. I'm almost 100% sure he's not seeing someone else, at least not at this time. So what should I do?
2006-12-06 03:02:00 · 5 answers · asked by Nixmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
7 years is along time .He should know what he wants by now.You also have a child together.. Start afresh, in time the pain will be ease somewhat and maybe there is a chance of meeting someone who will cherish you or this might just be the wake up call he needs.
2006-12-06 03:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he is not ready to commit 100%. So I would just try it on your own but do not cut him of from his son. Getting along part time is not the answer, it has to be 24/7-365. In the long run it will be healthier for you and your son.
Good Luck!!!!!!!
2006-12-06 03:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by Feline05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl I feel your pain..I am also torn @ times..part of me wants to leave and a part of me wants to stay...and my good girlfriend she is going through it with her man..they have been together for 3years...he brought himself a condo a few months ago and has never asked her once if she wanted to move in with him...she sat him down a few times..to have the talk..and his answer is the same...he dont know what he wants...he wants kids but do not want to live the woman...he do not want to get married..he tells her he like his life the way it is....mind you he is 38 or 39yrs.old and she is 31.....
it seems as though you love him and he loves you..but he is afriad to grow up..committ..7 years is a long time and he should know what he wants by now..and you guys have a kid together...so its time to move to the next level...I know you probably want more out of him..maybe marriage..save and move in a house...if you stay you will continue to ask yourself this question over and over..and be miserable..if you leave..I am %100 sure that you will be fine on your own....also you already know what kind of person he is...and for you to start dating all over again..is something you will have to get comfortable with again...unless you stay by yourself..get yourself together and wait for the right one to come to you..or maybe your man will be a better guy the second time around..its hard out there and so many diseases..lord..I dont know girl..this is hard but really think about it..if you feel like you really need to go..then do..and just stay by yourself take care of your child and dont worry about men for now...do you...
2006-12-06 04:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you waiting for? things were'nt good after 7 yrs... when do you think he will settle down and decide on what he wants? maybe when he gets his pension!!
Good luck and move on with your life. You deserve someone who is there for you and your son, and not someone who disappears every now and then.
2006-12-06 03:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO
2006-12-06 03:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jazey Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋