I love my boyfriend deeply but there's one thing I just can't seem to get out of my mind. I'm 18 and he's 24 and sometimes i feel i'm settling down way too early i won't get to experience the things he experienced. He dated about 4 women before me and I feel like I'm going to miss out on alot of fun things. I'm struggling within myself because I have no idea what to do. I also really wanted a mutual first time for many things including sex, etc. It's obviously not that way and I really don't know what to do because I'm so deeply in love with him. He means everything to me but I can't seem to get over those issues. What should i do?
2006-12-06 03:00:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have those issues it isnt true love. There is no doubts when you are really in love.
Your 18, practically a baby. Go get some life experiences - you wont regret it later.
2006-12-06 03:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I started dating this guy when I was 17. We stayed together until we were 24. A year later, I am single (he cheated) and completely lost. He was my first everything. Now I feel like a single girl thrown to a pack of wolves. Single and clueless at 25 with no experience to date.
Relationships are complicated always. But if he treats you right, he is good to you, then stay with him. But also realize that he is young too. 24 this day and age is not the same as our parent's generation. Men are much more career driven than they are driven to start a family. So if you discuss these feelings with him, he might feel the same way. But only you know the answer, and what you should truly do. If you feel trapped, it's time to start evaluating the relationship and seeing if it's worth working out.
My biggest regret is staying so long with somebody I thought I knew so well...but he betrayed me. I missed out on 7 years of experience, 7 years of finding the "right" person, and weeding through the idiots to find the gold. You might already have the gold though. You need to figure that out.
2006-12-06 11:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lost In Vast 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you enter into a relationship if you were not ready for the responsibilities? If you love this person then you need to talk with him about how you are feeling before you decide to go out and do something you'll regret. Miss out on what? What types of fun things? If all you wanted was a mutual first time with him then why did you continue the relationship? You really need to express your feelings with him so you won't have these issues ruining your relationships.
2006-12-06 11:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will always find in any relationship that there are sacrifices that need to be made. You need to ask yourself how important those things are to you. Don't give up on the things that are really important to you. If you don't think that you can commit to a relationship at the sacrifice of dating others, etc., then you need to consider the idea that maybe you need to free yourself to get this out of your system. 18 is awfully young to commit completely to one person for the rest of your life. It has been done, and it has been done successfully with both parties being happy, but it won't be that way for you if you're spending your life wondering "what else" was out there that you missed. I'm not suggesting that you break it off with your boyfriend, but if you feel as strongly as you sound like you do about getting out there and experiencing other things, then maybe you need to consider the possibility. If you really love him and think that it wouldn't be that much of a sacrifice to give up other men, other experiences, and things like that, then stay with him.
2006-12-06 11:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get over the issues, you ought to move on. If you have gone this long without having sex, I would think I would want to save it for who I was going to marry. Like you said you are 18 and he is 24. Did you expect him not to see people before you. If you loved him as much as you say you do. If he is with you, his past is just that past. Leave it there.
2006-12-06 11:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by CHEROKEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey
Dont' worry about it and stay with this guy. Yes he is older but if you love him then... Why not try asking him how man y time he has done it with his other girls and then decide. You see i am also in a relationship and my guy did it once with the one girlfriend he has but I am cool with it.
2006-12-06 11:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Abby M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should settle down right now. You are young and you should experience things thatt help with how you deal with situations and your maturity
2006-12-06 11:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel its too early let him know this asap so things won't get too serious.But if you really love him trust your heart,maybe you don't need to do all those things
2006-12-06 11:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it... simple as that...
2006-12-06 11:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by sperio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find someone new.
2006-12-06 11:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by sexy_stud829 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋