I'm in a wonderful relationship but I'm not getting the affection I crave. I love her and after years of being with her, I've come to the conclusion that she's just not the type. Is it possible to simply 'turn it off'? Can I suppress my feelings or make them go away so the relationship will work? Can I still have a fulfilling life without it? Is it something a person has to have or is it simply psychological? By affection, I mean hugging, kissing, holding hands, gazing at each other, foreplay kinda stuff. Are we just taught to want these things? I'm curious to know what other people think.
2006-12-06 02:45:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Affection is the only true part of a relationship while it is mainly physical and an outward display of your love.. Some people may display their affection in different ways. Ie gifts, cards, letters etc. etc.. If you feel unfulfilled in your relationship you may make the decision to find someone that fits your type of style. While love is not simply turned on and off shown by ppl in one sided relationships. I always say look down the road is that something you are willing to lack for 20 or 30 years. The only person worth being with is someone worth the time being spent. For each day that passes is one more day you can't get back. In life if you know what you want don't settle, find it and achieve it. In the end it'll be worth it.
2006-12-06 02:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need affection and that need will only grow stronger.When a person craves affection and they don't receive that affection,eventually they sort of wither up like an unwatered flower.You will not change your needs as needs are different from desires.I too was in such a relationship and I realized that being affectionate is built in and can not be taught.If your partner doesn't have that sensitivity to romance then it's not going to change because that's who they are.I would not live that way again,I will not live that way again.I'd rather be alone than settle into a relationship where I am not feeling the love I need.Even if the other person tries to accommodate you,it won't feel the same and it won't feel good,it will feel phony,so I'd recommend a new lover because this one is who she is and you either accept or move on.I told you already what I would do.
2006-12-06 10:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is only possible if i am not in love with the person anymore and am considering a breakup... \
no such thing as not being affectionate when u are in love
talk to her and see what her issues are
2006-12-06 11:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by sperio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man - i dont think you should try to cut off the need / or the want for the effectionate things you crave... i hate it for you - but is is kinda refreshing to hear a man complain that his woman is not effectionate enough - its usually the girl that wants more of those things....your wife/gf should consider herself lucky to have you....well thats my opinion anyway...you will always crave attention from the one you love....have you tried talking to your wife about how much it means to you?...
2006-12-06 10:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i have become less affectionate with my husband and it bothers him but by the time he gets home i have no patience or energy to give him attention after cleaning up insane messes our daughter makes and playing with her and do doing things with her and also doing things with my son and helping him with homework and such maybe she is just draining herself as well
2006-12-06 10:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by tabethamarie2002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋