but you are not dating, you just meet casually, would she then not be seen as relationship material?
can a relationship still develop???
2006-12-06 02:44:14 · 18 answers · asked by hunni!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it can develope. just dont come across as too easy. been there done it, but she was too easy and had my doubts.
2006-12-06 02:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by techno mentalist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer to this question really depends on the circumstances which conspired to place you together in that bed. Since you haven't said whether or not you are dating someone else, I want you to know that the initial advice I'm giving you here is based on the assumption that you are in a serious relationship already. If my assumption is wrong then I apologise because what I have to say may not sound very sympathetic.
I sincerely hope that you are not expecting me to tell you that the consequences of this act will not cause emotional pain to anyone else in your mutual social circle, because I am just not going to go there. If you two are sleeping around like this while you happen to be already in serious relationships with someone else, then it is inevitable that your respective partners are going find the news of your infidelity painful to cope with, especially if they hear about your actions from any other source than yourselves.
Whether it was an intentional act to sleep with this guy because you actually fancy him deep down, or whether it was an alcohol-fuelled accident, it is going to have serious consequences for your respective partners and it is not going to be pleasant for you to deal with. You are seriously going to have to sit down and talk to this guy and discuss what his intentions are and what you are going to do whether that is to have a serious relationship with him or to stop seeing him altogether.
If you both decide that you fancy each other, then yes you can look on him as relationship material and vice versa. If a baby results from this act of infidelity then for the well-being and future of the child, you had both better be serious about developing a relationship with each other, because the child will need the grounding that only a committed loving relationship between its parents will provide.
If the thought of that all that responsibility fills you with dread then that's tough. Welcome to the real world! What a pity you didn't think of these consequences before you acted on impulse.
I also think you should talk to your parents about it. It is perhaps a difficult thing for you to do, but if you include your parents, it will be a lot less stressful with them behind you. Your parents have been over the course before, they know what it's all about and, most importantly of all, they love you more than anyone else ever will, and their advice will always be in your best interests. I wish you luck and hope that you make the right decisions.
If on the other hand, you're both footloose and fancy free, and you slept with this guy because you think he's fit and want to have a relationship with him, sit him down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel about him. Ask him how he feels about you. You never know, he may feel exactly the same way about you. I think the fact that he has willingly slept with you is a pretty good sign that he doesn't find you exactly unappealing. But discuss it with him and make sure he wasn't just looking for a sexual conquest. He will soon show you whether he sees you as relationship material or not. Be sure though that if your one night stand has made you pregnant, then you had better hope he is serious about developing a committed relationship with you for the reason I have mentioned earlier. If he isn't, then you are in trouble, my dear, and you will need the help of your parents more than ever.
I hope you find this advice useful. Good luck!
2006-12-06 04:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by colliedug111060 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually just had this happen last weekend. I kinda knew this girl and we slept together after a party. We hung out all the next couple of days and now we are dating. It is always a good thing to test the water before you jump in. Good luck and have fun.
2006-12-06 02:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by Lee M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why a relationship couldn't develop from this situation.
However, you might ask yourself, "Is the guy wanting a relationship because I'm giving him sex?"
I'm a guy, and guys will do almost anything for some steady sex outside of getting married.
2006-12-06 02:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
after reading your other posts - you seem like a really nice person - giving this guy sex won't necessarily solve your problems, on one hand - it could make him aware that you really are ready to be with him, but on the other hand - be careful, the two of you might be together and then things between friends get awkward and you could lose your friendship, be careful - he might be looking to be with long term because you are best friends, but on the other hand he might see you as friends that share everything - and just be wanting to take that to the next stage, almost having already limited your possiblilty of a future together because you are friends.
my advice, your in a confusing situation, talk to the guy before you do anything, obviously he wants to take things further, and obviously you do to, but you need to know if he is planning on moving on afterwards - if so, then is sleeping with him really going o solve anything?
ask him where he sees it going before you commit yourself physically. at least you'll now where you stand. but do what you want and what makes you happy, don't be pushed into doing anything you don't want to do - best of luck!
2006-12-06 02:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by gurtbigal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course a relationship can develop BUT the right chemistry would still be needed.
2006-12-06 02:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes a relationship can develop
2006-12-06 02:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmmmm yeah - there really is such a thing as love at first sight, there are also opportunistic bastards&bitches out there who sleep with anything that moves, and if it don't move they kick it until it does and then sleep with it - no guarantees from a single encounter, but maybe, just maybe, it's romance - did he take your phone number?
Keep the faith - believe in love. I do.
2006-12-06 02:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you like each other why not develop a relationship? She must like you if she sleeps with you and I am sure you like her. Talk to her about it and see hoe she feels.
2006-12-06 02:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, this is all about what u both want, but a relationship can develop
2006-12-06 02:46:18 · answer #10 · answered by wolfchat_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends what each person is after...a relationship can develop if there is mutual interests
2006-12-06 02:50:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋