when I took it by "mistake". ALL of his texts. Some to 2 chicks who are "friends" which I've kown about, but dont know personally. There were some pretty sexy things being said back & fourth with both those girls, including invites to his house and out for dates. Needless to say, I am a mess, but I'm work, so I'm trying sooo hard to keep it together. Also, his roomate asked what was up with "tha hoez" for the night, which makes me think they invited chicks over. One girl even asked what to bring for drinks! He also subscribed to some cell phone dating thing where you text people back & fourth to get #'s. We've been a couple for almost 2 months, but have been seeing each other since early August. I feel so hurt. Yes, I snooped, but only because, I saw a text from 1 girl (1 of the friends) at 3 this morning- it woke me up- I was curious & my gut told me something was wrong. I have the cell & he was FRANTICALLY calling me telling me to turn it off "so it'll go to voicemail". I did. Help!
2006-12-06 02:31:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you think that you really need help with this? Come on now. I know you want to here its only a text dont worry about it, but no thats not true. He is being unfaithful. Even if there is no sexual contact involved, he is still talking with other girls and looks like hanging out with other girls. Do you want to live like this? Why be with somebody who does not respect you, and who lies to you. Even if he promises to stop, do you think that you will not always have in the back of your mind that he might be doing something wrong. It is early in the relationship. GET OUT NOW. It will only get harder for you to end it later.
There is no excuse for what he is doing. He is a player and dont be the one to get played. I dont think I would even give him a second chance at this point. And turn that phone back on, listen to those messages, maybe it will make it easier to leave him.
2006-12-06 02:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a d**k. You're in for trouble and infidelity, sweetheart. Do yourself a favor: RUN! This situation is a disaster waiting to happen, and the only thing it's going to hurt when it blows up is you. He was not calling the phone wanting you to turn it off "so it'll go to voicemail," he wanted to cover his a**. Also, he probably has a lock code on his phone so that as long as you turn it off once, you won't be able to access the phone anymore unless you have the code. No good, not good. Best of luck!
2006-12-06 02:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Spudnic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like it's just a "friend" thing with you too. If you've only been officially together for a couple of months and he's still looking around for other options, then hunny you DON'T need him. You might as well not even waste your time on this guy, just let him go and tell him that you obviously want different things and it's not going to work out. There is absolutely NO reason for you to continue putting up with it, all it's going to do is mess with your emotions and that's just not cool.
2006-12-06 02:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by angel_baby0824 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like you're more into this relationship than he is. He's probably really happy right now, because he gets the real relationship from you, but gets the "hoez" on the side for fun.
He knows he's doing something wrong, since he told you to turn off the phone. Either confront him about it, and see what he says, or confront him about it and dump his sorry butt.
I really hope you find someone who appreciates you and doesn't sneak around behind your back. No one deserves that!
2006-12-06 02:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a guy who is not ready for any kind of commitment. He is still playing the field and has left all his options open. If you want a casual dating type relationship with him, then ok but know that u will not be the only one he is seeing, but if u want something more, I would move on because he is not going to give u that.
2006-12-06 02:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, move on. Unless you are loving the drama. You caught him. Now what you do with it is up to you. I think you could tell those girls that he has a girlfriend but I don't think they are going to care. You need to just let him go. You need to get yourself a man that cares about you.
When he called to tell me to turn it off I would have said why? Who call the phone that I can answer it for? I know all your friends, why can't I just answer your phone.
2006-12-06 02:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you know you dont need this...Dump him if you only been together for 2 months and he is doing this shyt...Its not even worth the tears or heartache...Your so much more better then this...Dumb him and go out for drinks with your girlfriend and later he will realize what a good thing he had...but by then you will be gone...Good Luck!
2006-12-06 02:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. i might do the best judgment element and notice who this is from first. If this is from somebody who appears like a stranger, i'm going to ask them approximately it. in the event that they do no longer p.c. to respond to, i'm going to confront them approximately it. in the event that they nevertheless refuse to respond to, i'm going to confirm some thing else. battling is a final motel and would not particularly help.
2016-10-14 03:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to confront him
Otherwise, if something is going on, you'll only be hurt more when you find out the hard way
If you do find out before he finds out that you found out, break up with him. He's not good enough for you.
sorry that was a really confusing sentence
2006-12-06 02:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him! Enough said. He obviously isn't really trying to have a relationship with you and only you, he's a player, and the fact that you saw it with your own eyes should be enough to let it go. You can do better, and I'm sure you know you deserve that much, as well!
2006-12-06 02:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋