so this guy in my culinary class at BOCES, and i have been flirting hard core, and yesterday he kissed me (he is a VERY good kisser) but he has a g/f and she is the sister of one of my very good friends, and that friend actual;ly told me she wanted me to do stuff w/ him so her sister and him would break up, b/c he is 16 and she is like...20 now...and my friend is glad that i let him kiss me...i mean i liked him since before he was dating HER...and he liked me before that...but i still feel kinda guilty inside b/c im the other girl...i dunno what to do...i feel like this whole thing makes me a bad person...but i'm far too infatuated to resist....
2006-12-06 02:14:56 · 28 answers · asked by So over-used 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you are, you should reconsider the whole affair.
2006-12-06 02:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by Georgi Girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish there was some way the girl-victim of all this could avoid feeling pain, but I don't see how. The guy you're infatuated with is cheating on her. That means he is not capable of having a mature relationship with her. You don't know whether he has the capability of having a faithful relationship with you either.
If you break this thing off, he's still out hunting for fresh meat. So, his girlfriend is vulnerable to being hurt no matter what you do.
2006-12-06 10:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, if this guy is cheating on his girlfriend with you, what makes you think he'll stop when he leaves her and dates you? One of my rules is, once a cheater always a cheater. I'm sure his eyes would wander no matter who he is dating. Never be the 'other girl'. Respect yourself enough to find a guy who isn't emotionally attached with another woman, because all you'll be getting is his leftovers- the leftovers of his heart after hes dated this other girl.
2006-12-06 10:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell the guy what you just told us.
If he really wants it to go somewhere, he will break it off with the other girl. If not, just move on. You deserve better than to be "the other woman" in a relationship. no matter how infatuated you are. Respect yourself, and others will too.
2006-12-06 10:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by mimi22 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's why adults shouldn't date children. It's hard to get an older guy to act right. You shouldn't have done that, but it doesn't make you a bad person. I would leave him alone until he's single again. It probably won't be long for that to happen.
no offense guys, you know I love you.
2006-12-06 10:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep doing this, then you are a bad person. Let people be, and someday somebody will let you be. Remember, the flow always back up one day. If you are true to the people around you, you will have everything you need, and everything will fall on place.
Word up
2006-12-06 10:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by Zolex1981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it.she souldnt be with him anyways because of the age difference and you should feel bad he kissed you you didnt kiss him and if her sister wants them to break up then i would she cant get mad at you if you did what she wants so give it a try and see how it works out
2006-12-06 10:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by xxrlhoodratxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, if a 20 year old is dating a 16 year old then something is very wrong with them!
2006-12-06 10:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by Molly323 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you two have a chemistry THAT IS ALL THAT MATTERS. stop worrying about rules and regulations. just like marriage. people say oh dont do this if one is married. well to some degree it's true. but on the other hand if the marriage was so great why is one of the people seeking outside love?? chemistry is what rules everything.
2006-12-06 10:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your not the bad person. you were just kissing the guy you liked. he's the bad person for doing that even though he has a girlfriend. don't think about getting serious with him though cause he will probably do the same to you.
2006-12-06 10:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
pretty crazy for this great kisser huh? talk to him to see if he's alright that you feel a little guilty. he can probably help u out to feel better. i dont think u are a bad person; as long as that 20yr old sister friend isnt harmed by it.
2006-12-06 10:18:56 · answer #11 · answered by Sharon 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋