2006-12-06 02:12:22 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oi!!!Detailed answers guys!!!Tell me why its a yes or a no!!!
2006-12-06 02:16:41 · update #1
He had a one night stand....God I'm hurting.
2006-12-06 02:22:34 · update #2
If he had just taken a **** on me it would have felt less disrespectful.
2006-12-06 02:23:49 · update #3
He confessed.There was no way I could have known otherwise.
2006-12-06 03:17:30 · update #4
Never could, never would.
I just wouldnt be able to feel the same again. Like others have said, if they have done it once, they will do it again.
Were not all b*stards though.....honest!!
2006-12-06 02:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by robmurfitts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did forgive but that doesn't mean that you still don't use your brain in a situation like that. I got out of the relationship because there are some things I just don't stand for. We still keep in contact due to the fact we have children together & in 8 years he hasn't changed. Once & a while he'll try to tell me of him cheating on who ever he's with at the time & I cut him off & let him know that I don't have the time for that.
2006-12-06 02:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by Cstout 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey yeah i got back wit my partner after he had cheated on me, this was mainly to stop him getting with the slag.
We are still together two years later but i will never forget about it and he understands that!
i dont believe once a cheater always a cheater, he has changed so much he would never do it again, and we are getting married next year!
So i guess your answer is yes it can work out if you want it too!
Hope everything works out for ya! x x
2006-12-06 02:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had a one night stand then....thats hard, how did you find out? did he confess or was he caught ?
If he confessed he knew that there was a possibility that you would never forgive him and the relationship would be ruined but atleast he was honest and it shows that he regrets his actions and realises what he has - YOU !
If he was caught then personally i could forgive but NEVER forget and every time he was going out I would torture myseld wondering where and who he was with, the trust would be gone and so would my sanity.
I know this is gonna be really really hard for you but move on, you deserve someone that respects you, if you leave and your bf falls to pieces then you'll know that he's lost without you and the balls in your court. If he just gets on with things then he wasnt worth the heartache - Good Luck x
2006-12-06 02:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know one couple who did survive that. The wife had had a one night stand, then confessed to her husband. Those two facts are important (one night stand and confession). He was angry for a couple of years. They had marital counseling. This is a long time ago, about ten years and they had a child since. So, yes, sometimes it works. This was a one night stand, which is easier to swallow than a long-term affair. Yet, it was with a colleague, so someone she knew for a while. This couple worked hard at it, she changed jobs, she was willing to take anger in therapy. He was able to never bring it up again after they worked in therapy.
Statistics show that this is a real exception. Most couple do not survive affairs. I think it's stupid. Affairs can happen without it meaning the straying partner does not love his or her partner deeply. A life together with a compatible loving partner should not be thrown away for one straying.
If it's a pattern, that's different.
2006-12-06 02:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have had friends both male and female who tried and it never worked out. Either the person could not forgive or the cheater cheated again.
Still it seems to work for the Clintons.
2006-12-06 02:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by shadouse 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i never thought i would forgive or indeed could forgive my partner for cheating but having just recently experienced this i have forgiven him. this is because having been together for 6yrs it seems better to work through it rather than parting. on saying that if he does it again i wont hesitate in ending it. i guess its really about whether you are strong enough to go through the possibility of being hurt again and not being, or ending it now and still being hurt.
2006-12-06 03:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I forgave a man for cheating on me before, and guess what he did not stop cheating on me. He just found a way to not get caught. Once a cheater always a cheater.
Peace
2006-12-06 02:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by dcthugbaby 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did and it didn't work out.
We had been together for 7 yrs, he cheated and we split for 1 yr and got back together.
He aplogised and promised never to do it again and all that kind of stuff......
Well 3 yrs later he was at it again and only this time round we got a house together (in my name tho) so I confronted him and surprise surprise he denied everything.....
Anyway I could never go back and do it all again with him or anyone else for that matter.
Your pride and self esteem is worth too much....x
2006-12-06 02:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never happened to me but, no, I wouldn't. Iv'e know a few ppl that have taken back their lying losers, and the relationship is never the same. It haunts even the best relationships,and the trust is damaged. Maybe therapy works for some ppl, but I know deep down, it's always there. The thought.
2006-12-06 02:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgave but don't think I will ever forget. We have kids so that's a big reason to try and we still have love for each other. It's not the same and don't think it ever will be. Different (meaning the change in communication) can be good and sometimes better. Only you can answer your own ? Whatever you decide, Good Luck!
2006-12-06 02:24:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋