Why does it seem that Black women prefer to be alone rather than date outside their race?

Question

I have several girlfriends who are alone. They are waiting for the perfect black man, rather than the perfect man. I have suggested dating outside of the race but they won't go there. They seem as if they would rather settle or share a man rather than searching for someone special. What are your thoughts?

Answer 1

society puts a lot of pressure on black women to "be strong". our culture has plenty of single black women that have held down several jobs, raised more than one child, and gone on to live happy, successful lives without a man. by choosing to stay single, they may actually be held in higher regard if they are single than if they date someone outside of their race. the comments would be "Damn girl! you're doing you're thing!" instead of "what the hell does she see in him!?"

that leads to the other pressure: interracial relationships also received pressure from society...from all races! while this is becoming more accepted slowly but surely, it's still sort of taboo for people to date outside of their races. but like i said, it's more accepted these days than it was years ago; look at all the mixed race people around these days!

lastly, our culture...black culture...emphasizes the fact that there IS a perfect black man out there. with so few of us, though, i agree with you: WOMEN, no matter what the race, should start looking for the perfect MAN, regardless of the package he comes in.

Answer 2

good question. Maybe they were raised around more white people and naturally gravitate towards white women. Also, there is less stigma attached for a black man to date a woman of another ethnicity than the other way around. Black Women dating men of other ethnicities is still seen as taboo to many black woman and people of other races.

Answer 3

I've dated outside my race. It's hard for me to find the right connection though. Sometimes it's just not there but I think that's an individual thing, not a racial one. I've met black guys who I could barely have a conversation with. Just didn't have much in common.

Answer 4

I think your "friend" has her own personal "reasons", and just that, Personal! It is no different than liking only "vanilla ice cream". Being a "woman" of colour, she has experience in the difficulties of a mixed marriage. She has probably seen the after effects brought down on the children and by society. Let her alone about this subject, and enjoy the "reasons" that made you Friends in the First place. I myself, agree with your friends, stay with your "own", they know you better,you have far more in common,your children will not be raised in "confusion", and many more reasons, too numerous to mention here. As I said, Leave well enough alone, and go on with your friendship and your own life's ambitions and dreams. Merry Christmas

Answer 5

i would rather date a black man too. i have never dated outside my race

Answer 6

well I dont know how true that is...I am a black female..currently in a relationship with a hispanic man and I hope that he is my perfect man......I dont care about skin color..everyone is different...maybe they perfer to be with a black man..everyone has the right to have a perference..

Answer 7

There is no such thing as a perfect mant. There was only one - Jesus. She should look for someone that will respect her and treat her with dignity no matter what the color of his skin.

Answer 8

is not easy to find open minded men that will marry out of
their own race too is one reason why

Answer 9

If what you say is true about black women then I guess it because they want to preserve their heritage.

Answer 10

i dont think it should be about race it should be about how the man makes u feel no matter wat color he is....i think that ur friends might just be a little niave...or they are just worried about wat other people might say about an interracial relationship...but one thing ive learned is that love doesnt see colors it see wats on the inside