I'm a 27 year old who is shy and would never tell anyone nothing cause i never talk. but there have been countless times when in the bus stop or wherever, there is are beautiful girls and i like them alot. However i feel they just think i'm like a manequin, and would not even consider me. Is this the truth? If talkative outgoing girls see a shy guy, who obviously is shy even through body language, do they just ignore us and think we are crap?
2006-12-06 02:07:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
decent girls won't think you're crap, but they may not notice you. it's harsh, but true. but all you have to do is smile or say hello or something and that can be enough to start a conversation. usually it's best for a shy person to pair with an outgoing one, they balance each other. 2 outgoings will compete for competition. 2 shys will always be awkward and have nothing to say. so smile at someone and see what happens.
2006-12-06 02:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! They may not even SEE you at all!!! It is up to YOU to "push" yourself out of your quiet little comfort zone... DON"T BE A MANNEQUIN!!!! you do not have to be "wild and crazy"...but eye contact and a smile or a nod or a friendly greeting would be appropriate AND maybe even welcomed!!!
You must ALSO work on your self confidence...when you say you feel like a "mannequin" that tells me (an outgoing..fun loving female!) that you are appearing as a cold, stiff, unemotional, inanimate object!!! Let your "presence" be FELT!!! "watch" them with interest!!! "smile" (even) "laugh" (if it is a funny moment) Make a jovial, light hearted comment when appropriate! To "be seen" is to have "presence" Stand tall (no slumping!) smile and make sure you are practicing good hygiene and that you are dressed neat and your hair is clean and shiny and those "pearly teeth" are white and gleaming! There should also be a sparkle in your eye ("pleasure" will put that there!...showing enjoyment in watching them have fun!)
Looks are somewhat important...but a confident, well groomed, out going, well mannered, funny guy can stand up to the "Brad Pitts" of the world any day!!! We find these things as "sexy" as "looks"!!! ...Just ask Woody Allen...Robin Williams, Howie Mandell...get the picture??? Good luck in you "quest"!!!!
2006-12-06 02:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by photogram1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i am very outgoing and loud so if i see a shy guy and i like him i will try to catch his attention by either getting him involved with what i am doing or acting out not thinking he can see me. we don't think you are crap. just open up to everybody don't worry about what people say! you only live once and there is only one you so be you! if your shy okay, but if you are unconformable about being shy then change but if you are changing for a girl to like you thats a bad idea! one of these days you will get tired of being someone your not and want to be the person you are. if you are happy with the way you are, stay the way you are. dont change cause someone wants you to, change cause YOU want to. love ya!
2006-12-06 02:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Oh_man_thats_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love shy guys. I am totattly attratced to guys who are shy compared to outgoing jerks. I mean when i see a guy next to me who is shy i want to just go over there. To me shy guys make me feel as if their hiding something, almost mysterious. They are a lot more interesting. I defintaly think many girls would be attracted to you. maybe next time give one a little smile and just watch, they will start flirting back with you.
2006-12-06 02:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I see a guy that is quite but feel some type of attraction I would just approach them to start the conversation and see how it goes...In your case though you see someone you like maybe you should start some small talk...Like did any bus just pass...Do you know what time it is...or something that you she can relate to...Good Luck!
2006-12-06 02:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, honestly my husband I believe is shy, but he did speak up and talk to me (I guess he really liked me). Anyway, I know its hard when your shy to talk to a person, but you need to muster up all you have and at least say something. A hi with a smile would be a good start! Who cares if it doesn't rock her world right away. Later on you both will laugh about it.
2006-12-06 02:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one that locks yourself up.
The bus stop wouldn't be a good place to really get to know a girl. But try to break the ice.
Just a friendly smile with eye contact is always good.
Don't be so scared to rejection.
Who knows.
She might be waiting for you to make the move.
2006-12-06 02:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by Louw D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude!
Men are the hunters, Women are the prey. You have to go after them, they won't come to you. At least say Hi and they will consider you. You kight get rejected out of hand (As well I know) but you have to at least try.
2006-12-06 02:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by stn1225 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's cute that you are shy when we outgoing girls look your way. u said you are 27 huh? dont u think u should be talking to girls now?
2006-12-06 02:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Just because you are shy doesnt mean anything. If a girl thinks your hot, then your hot.
2006-12-06 02:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋