My ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago. Said he still loved me but needed to sort his life out.
2 weeks ago we spoke casually and he told me to call him and that we should get together sometime.
I never called. The other night he showed up at my friends b-day (the friend he absolutly despised). At last minute I couldnt be there b/c I had to go out of town.
I met a new guy and flirted and exchange #'s. I have since told that guy that I am not yet ready to date. Apparently my ex overheard the fact that I gave new guy my # (according to friends).
That same day I called my ex just to apologize for not calling him earlier. He didnt answer so i left a message.
An hour later he called me back. But I was out. He left a nice message saying that it has been too long since weve spoken and that we should definitley catcu up.
I called him back the next day and left another message just saying I was returning the message that he left me. I
I want to know where we stand. Any ideas?
2006-12-06 01:59:12 · 11 answers · asked by Jenny S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he is having some regrets about letting you go. I would play hard to get if I were you. Show him that next time he shouldnt take for granted that you will be waiting with open arms for him to decide he still wants you.Good luck.
2006-12-06 02:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by belinda f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful in this situation. I mean he said he left you to sort out his life. A couple of weeks would not be enough time to do this. Plus what is probably happening is that he is not liking the fact that you are moving on, even if it is just exchanging numbers and he wants to make sure that he can have you back when ever he wants.
The thing you have to think about is, do you want to be back with him? Are you willing to wait? Once he has you back, is he going to stay or is the satisfaction of him knowing he can get you back whenever he wants enough for him to get back with you then leave you again?
What I would do is completely turn the tables. Make it clear to him that you are able to live your life without him, that you are willing and ready to move on.
Ex's do not like when they are no longer in control. So make sure that if he wants to get back together that is genuine, not just an control issue.
2006-12-06 02:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, the tangled webs we weave! Just my opinion, but it sounds like he may be in the "don't want her, but don't want anybody else to want her", mode. This happens all too often and keeps the other person in limbo. He made the choice to end the relationship, for whatever reason and then he saw you getting on with your life, and he still wants to be #1!
I played this cherade for several years with my ex-husband. It never failed that if he heard I was moving on, then he would suddenly appear. He would stay in the picture long enough to get me really confused, then as soon as I would decide not to date anybody else, he would disappear again.
He sounds like he is just wanting to keep tabs and see where he stands. Good Luck!
2006-12-06 02:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the Door is open but don't give up the new guy yet..
i mean LIFE doesn't get sorted out in 6 weeks my dear.
So he'd better come clean.
Fyi- Check to see if he suffers from depression , as this is what happened to me once and he didn't want to tell me.
2006-12-06 02:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex left you high and dry. You decided to continue living your life, now your ex wants in. These are the cold, hard facts. So what do you do with this information? Take it as it is. You have to move on, saying hi to him every once in a while is fine. But living in confusion when the handwriting's on the wall is not so fine. Good luck.
2006-12-06 02:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The truth is he broke up with you so let him go. Men only want what they can't have and if you get interested in someone else he will want you. Then he will dump you again. He dumped you once that's ok .....if it happens again it will be your own fault. You may give up an opportunity with this new guy who you never know may be mister right. Go for the new guy.
2006-12-06 02:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by greybluehoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is keeping you on the back burner. He wants to keep you in his life so you don't move on but since you are not technically together he will probably see people.
2006-12-06 02:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by Tab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like in the dark,if wasn't sure about ur relationship then he prolly isn't now sounds like both of you r young so my advice would be move on life is to short to be with un sure ppl
2006-12-06 02:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by griefer123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you are still on his mind....so yeah maybe you should go hang out with him and catch up...BUT dont put yourself out there....dont tell him you still want him if he doesnt say anything first..rememner HE broke up with YOU...the ball is in his court.
2006-12-06 02:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he still love you perhaps never trust a man.
2006-12-06 02:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by honey4life y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋