My gf is acting strangely and i dont know why, we are both at university and will have to spend time apart over christmas. im ok with it and willing to visit her but she is worried because we see each other everyday and pretty much live together. She is treating me quite coldly and is blunt with me when we talk. What is going on in her head?
2006-12-06 01:45:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's a woman, so more than likely she's angry that you may not miss her as much as she would you, plus you did'nt give her the alternative to come spend time with you & you're folks, so she's probably thinking you don't want her to be a part of your family & that you're not very serious about her..... why the hell do you have to spend Christmas APART? Hmmm?
2006-12-06 01:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesn't want to spend any time apart from you and may be worried about losing you. She might have a self-esteem problem and may think she will lose you to someone else over the Christmas period. That may be why the two of you are always together. Visit her over Christmas and see if she's a bit happier. If not, then she may have decided to move on. Sorry :(
Lets just hope for the best though.
2006-12-06 01:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space is the best option and see what happens.
It could be she just feels smothered and clinging onto her can only make things worse.
It could be the beginning of the end but you'll only bring that around quicker by holding on for dear life to the extent she feels she can't breathe.
It's a shame your time apart will be Christmas as that's a good time to be together but here you have the chance to take a breather, don't be phoning her every hour of the day, make it once a day or less and see where it goes.
In the end, she might just realise how much she's missed you!
2006-12-06 01:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I was going to ask the mind-reader, but he seems to have left the building! Swine.
How can anyone Know what's going on inside her head?
You have to read the signs (which you have) and react accordingly (which you have). But unless she comes clean, then you can only react according to your suspicions.
The likelihood is that she wants to 'end it' and for whatever reason, finds it difficult to tell you so. Instead, you get the cold front thrown up at you.
You could try asking her bluntly, or you could simply say that it might be better that you separate until she has found a way to tell you what she does / not want.
Instead of this 'waiting around' for events to unfold, it might be better if you make a stand and take some control ~ of whatever it is that you can.
I wish you the Best of Luck.
Sash.
2006-12-06 01:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably upset that you're so OK with it.
I suspect that, like most men, you've 'fixed' the problem by suggesting you'll visit-problem is she sees you being happy to just 'pop down/up' to see her as a bit of a let down(I would suspect) and perhaps wanted you to be there more. Have you invited her up to your home? That may be an issue if you haven't (I know, I know, but we're funny creatures).
Not only that but (and I can't believe I didn't put this first), there's the whole 'party season' thing-you know, lots of booze, old friends, other women looking glamorous and tempting(note, tempting) to consider. If you're rarely apart then trust probably hasn't been an issue because she hasn't had to as such.
Best thing I can suggest is sit down and talk to her to see what's up and reassure her that you're not going to cop off with the first single female you see when you get home!
2006-12-06 01:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard one, and we have the two possible answers above, either she is down because you are going to be apart, and you're OK about it, and she is just trying to play it cool because you are and saying that there is no need for you to go visit, or she has other plans for Christmas. Nudge nudge. You also have to consider that Christmas is break-up season, and for some reason we see the holiday season as the time to make and break relationships.
I think that is she knows you are OK about spending time apart, she is upset that you are OK about it. If she doesn't know you're OK about it, she has other plans.
2006-12-06 02:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is worried about you finding someone else while she is away. But try to find a way for you two to see each other more over the christmas break. Or just let her know how you feel being away from her. Good Luck!!!!
2006-12-06 01:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by I'Shanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what is cold.. Maybe she thinks its a good idea to have time apart, Im a sort of girl that i get fed up if i have no privacy.. Maybe she feels the same. If you think she loves you and tells you then it should be fine. But if you cant talk to her then it is little weird..
2006-12-08 07:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by Kittykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have family or anyone to go home to? Sounds like maybe she wants an invite to go with you. Maybe she's lonely. If you are that close to her that you see her everyday, and practically live together, you should have SOME idea. Talk it out.
2006-12-06 01:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is upset with the fact that she wont be seeing you and know your every move it is a girl thing she will get over it and just be nice to her and tell her how much you will miss her and stuff it is what girls need the fact that you are ok with it probably bothers her its like you saying you don't care that you wont be seeing her that is how she sees it
2006-12-06 01:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋