I'm 13, my mom makes me wear a bra. I know she's right but I dont like it. Saturday I went to a mall to have lunch with some friends and their parents, we would hang out after lunch. It was hot and I came to the mall braless. I didn't know, but mom would join us after her classes, she's a teacher. Well, she noticed I was braless. She told the guys she'd have to leave with me for some moments, took me to a store, baought me a bra and made me put it on. I got embarassed, the attendant at the shop laughed a lot. Mom was not mad at me and was nice, but said See hun? You can't deceive your mom. My friends and their parents didn't notice what happened but some of my friends noticed I was braless before mom came and was wearing one after we came back, and later they laughed too. Nothing bad, but I got embarrassed. After lunch I complained to mom she had embarrassed me. She just laughed, kissed,said I had no reason to get embarrassed and made me promise I wouldn't do that again.
2006-12-06 01:39:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hon if you're getting breasts then you need a bra for support. I had to start wearing a bra at 13 too and I got teased at school at first but that didn't last long. Your mum could have shown a little more tact and left it til later to have a word with you about it but thats just mums for you - they do tend to be embarrassing when you're a teenager.
2006-12-06 01:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by Lost and found 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult one... i don't know what u can do if u've already told ur mom u don't like it and she didn't, you know, do anything to make u feel better. I suggest u talk to someone who can help u out by actually speaking to ur mom... an aunt maybe, or the doc or your teacher. I'm sure she knows what's best for u and u should start wearing bras (preferably start with a sports bra) but what she did in the mall was a bit too much. Seek help from someone who can actually do something. Best of luck!
2006-12-06 09:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by nauts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to take your mom's side but you put yourself in an potentially embarrassing situation when you left the house without a bra.
Your mom just corrected the situation. Could it be that you were already embarrassing yourself and your mom by walking around without a bra? I don't know how developed you are but chances are if your mom thinks you need to be wearing one you probably do.
Your mother is older and wiser. Save yourself further embarrassment and listen to what she tells you to do even if you don't like it.
2006-12-06 10:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom was just trying to protect you and maybe she
knows that you really need to wear a bra.Be glad she cares
enough to pay attention.Maybe she didn't want anyone to make
fun of you for not wearing a bra.Sometimes people see things
that you don't see.She did try to do it in a way that wouldn't
embarrass you,you have to give her that.Remember moms will
be moms.Be glad you have her and she loves you.Be glad that
you have good friends that didn't make too big a deal out of it.
You probably would have laughed with your friends if it was one
of them.Don't give it any more thought.Just love your mom
because you only get one mom.
2006-12-06 09:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by venture1517 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters so much about whether or not you were wearing one, I think your mom is trying to give you the hint that you need to respect her wishes. She asked you to wear one and you didn't. It's just like if she asked you to mow the lawn one day and you didn't. it's starts raining the next day and she makes you mow it then anyway just to prove a point. Just respect your mom's wishes, she sounds like a loving mom and that she deserves that. Yes, it probably was embarrassing, but think about this: could you have prevented the situation? yes, wear a bra. Take care.
2006-12-06 10:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by Spudnic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah alittle embarassing but if she can tell that you weren't wearing a bra maybe you should take that as a huge hint that you really should start wearing one. maybe if you find them incredibly uncomfortable wear a sports bra or camisale shirt with the built in bra under you shirts. i know it sucks but its part of being a girl. also, this will keep your mom from bothering you about this again. but i'm sure she will find other things to embarass yuo about.
2006-12-06 10:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother sounds to be a wonderful Mom directing you correctly. Your mothers action may have caused others to laugh where by you were embarrassed however mom did not cause this situation for you, you caused this situation for yourself bynot listening in the first place. She handled this very well. Thank her and learn the lesson
2006-12-06 09:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation required grace, finesse and your mother tried to execute that without having you embarass yourself. If she said something around your friends at that particular time and spread your business then she would be wrong, but she is your mother and she didn't want your "ta tas" hanging out. It's about being ladylike and she showed her love towards you with no animosity. Some folks have it worse, hon'. Just chuck it down as one of those "wonderful" life experiences you wouldn't want to relive.
2006-12-06 09:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't realize that your friends noticed and were laughing. Tell her. If she still doesn't care, it sounds like she just doesn't care. Try to recognize, though, that she's looking out for you. If it was so obvious to your friends that your weren't wearing a bra, then you probably SHOULD be wearing one. Who's gonna tell you that? Your Mom.
2006-12-06 09:45:02 · answer #9 · answered by Milana P 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personal I hate bras but it depends on how much you have and if you have erect nipples all the time, that can be the problem. My daughter never had a problem wearing a bra. Don't get embarrassed. Lori
2006-12-06 09:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋