I broke up with my boyfriend 9 months ago. In the meantime, I have started seeing someone else. All three of us work at the same place. My ex has been leaking details of our relationship to people in the office. He is acting aggressive towards me and encourages gossip and trash-talking about me and my new boyfriend. When I try to talk to him about this, he accuses me of being a liar and tells me I deserve to be treated like that. Please, how do I deal with this? Ignoring him won't stop this. By the way, I have asked my new boyfriend to stay out of this, as this issue is just between me and my ex. I don't want to be like him and also start spreading rumors about him.
2006-12-06 01:35:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't quit the job because I'm bound to it by contract for at least another 1.5 years.
2006-12-06 01:42:48 · update #1
Ignoring him WILL stop this, but it wil take time, unfortunatley. He's only doing this to get a 'rise' out of you. The more you talk to him, plead, with him , whatever, the more fuel you give him to work with. Tell him he's not worth your time and breath, you're happier than you've ever been. Remember: feeling good about yourself is the best revenge.
2006-12-06 01:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The woes of dating people at your workplace!! You may need some help getting the psycho ex-boyfriend to shut the heck up. I agree with your decision to not involve the new boyfriend....but that doesn't mean I wouldn't ask my older bro. or father to kick the crap out of him. You apparently are making the ex-bo jealous. I'd suggest you stop communicating with the ex-bo.--that method has proven to be ineffective and he may enjoy the attention. You're going to have to very creative to stop what's going on...and if he wants everything to be made public...perhaps a shouting match in the presence of your co-workers about his 'inadequacies' might work. LOL Good Luck
2006-12-06 01:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned in college that when children are young like that, separations between parents don't usually affect them as badly as it would if they were in adolescence. Reason being because in adolescence, stability is the one thing they can rely on while trying to find themselves. Now, I don't think you are being unreasonable, but maybe you two could find some common ground. Let him have the children on the weekends. You tell him Friday you will drop the children off. If he doesn't want to do it that way or he wants to do it on a Sunday, then tell him next Friday you will drop the children off. It's his time he's wasting with the children if he can't make time for them over the weekends. I mean, if he isn't working on the weekends then it's his loss (because he is choosing something that's more important for himself to do). I know you want him to be active in their lives, but he has to want to make time for them. It is difficult being a single parent and he needs to realize that. He's the one that caused this to begin with. He made his own bed. Let him lay in it.
2016-03-13 04:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Diane S. Either you or your ex need to find another job because bringing your personal lives into the workplace is clealry disrupting others and many companies will not stand for it. In which case, either you or your ex may lose your job.
Admittedly, it would be preferable if your ex was made redundant or left but what are your chances of that happening?
My only other advice would be to refrain from dating within your company. I made this fatal error once and it had horrendous consequences.........namely that she lost her job for screwing half the male office population trying to make me jealous for ending our relationship.
2006-12-06 01:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always felt that getting involved romantically with co-workers is a recipe for disaster. Nothing good can come of this. My best advice to you would be to start sending your resume out and get a new job. Once you land a new position don't get involved with your colleagues. It is unprofessional and you risk damaging your reputation as well as your dignity.
2006-12-06 01:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have someone kill him for you? heh, J/K
What you'll do is file a complaint on the nearest police department. He's obviously stalking and chasing you. He could as well try to kill you. Then give that letter to your boss so they can transfer him. Whatever relationship the two of you had is over and he has no right to give you **** about it. You need a protection order. If anything happens to you, he'll be first suspect.
Do this ASAP.
2006-12-06 01:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by M'lady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-01-26 19:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by Owen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of you needs to find a new job....if it continues, one or both of you may get fired...it is very disruptive to the workplace and makes everyone uncomfortable...It really is never a good idea to date people at work for this very reason....hard to keep personal and work separate and that is a must...so think about looking for a new job....that's the only way it will ever end...good luck
2006-12-06 01:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he is just bitter on you having a boyfriend while he has no girlfriend...the best solution..ignore and he will get tired of it..
2006-12-06 01:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would find a big old redneck hillbilly to stomp him a new mudhole.and let him know its from you-just make sure you have a good alibi.
2006-12-06 01:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by norb4423 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋