i have a daughter who is 6 years old and im having problem with her attitude. its not that she is a shy girl but u cant see her mingle with other kids until u told her so (in school) i always talk to her teacher abt her progress and still she's like that. she's good in school and was even pointed to participate in english contest but she refused to join. even when we have gatherings, it so hard to convince her join her cousins while dancing or singing (though she have good voice and can dance well). any suggestions???
2006-12-06 01:34:27 · 14 answers · asked by totallylost 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Force her to do stuff and then if she doesn't beat her a bit. She will catch on very quickly and do great. Tough love is always good.
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2006-12-06 01:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Thanks for the Yahoo Jacket 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Every chance you get set an example. Kids learn a lot more from watching mom than we realize. Try not to force her into socializing or participating that will only intensify her fear.
Don't label her shy in front of other people..This too can add to her shyness. Most likely she is trying to get her courage up to
try new things but feeling pressured will stall any progress.
Try having a small get together other kids her age. Relax and give her time. She will be fine.
2006-12-06 12:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by unbeatensnailhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem as a kid. But I also had seperation anxiety. I hated being away from my mom, and only my mom. My mom finally made me join things like dance class and soccer to get me active and try to push me out there, but she always stayed to make me feel okay I liked it but eventually quit (one of the biggest regrets); you might try things like that for her, find something she likes and see if there's a class for it and get her closer to kids outside of school. I'm not sure if that's her problem though. That could be her personality, i'm also shy and quiet with my family too. At holidays I'll sit on a couch to this day and don't talk to anyone unless they talk to me and i'll respond and don't say anything else unless approached again.
I'm just not comfortable in certain settings she might be the same way. She might just have to find certain friends and get close to them. I was that way in school I had 2-3 friends I was best friends with for 11 years.
2006-12-06 12:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by mtoWCS09 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you have to respect her personality. Relating to others is something that can't be forced. You can also try to become a good example: If you socialize and let her know how much you enjoy socializing, maybe she will give it a try. But some people are loners and LIKE to be loners.
I think you have to accept her as she is, unless you notice she is suffering for being alone or for staying apart from others.
If being alone is her choice and not the result of being shunned by others, then just respect that. She is only 6 yrs. old. For some of us, socializing takes a bit longer.
The worst thing you can do is to put pressure on her. Just love her for who she is and don't let her think that you'd like her better if she would be different in her attitude.
2006-12-06 09:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mardesal 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with some of the other answers - you need to sign her up for something that will help her deal with people. I was very shy up until I was about 26 years old. I would get physically sick when having to do anything in front of people. I took a modeling class where I had to stand on the runway and model in front of the class and speak for commercial auditions. This was terrifying but I did it. Today - you can't shut me up! Find something similar for her that she is interested in.
2006-12-08 15:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a little bit of space. I was very shy as a little girl and the more my parents and teachers forced me to play with my peers the more I drew away from them and felt like something was wrong with me. My parents finally took the hint and backed off abit, and guess what happened, I found my own circle of friends and activities that I liked and became fairly social.
2006-12-07 10:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get her involved with more activities that will build her self-esteem.... Things like maybe a dance class or a sport. Girl scouts. Ask her if she knows why she doesn't like to get involved. She may not be comfortable. Help her by joining in the fun with her.
2006-12-06 09:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 26 years old and I'm still a very shy person. I takes me a few years to really warm up to people and feel free to be myself. I don't think you can or should try to 'force' people to change who they are - it never works, and it only causes resentment. Just be there to praise her when she does make those little (but big!) social steps. Good luck!
2006-12-06 10:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I used to be extremely shy when I was little.(even if its not that she is shy) Forcing her to do anything will make her resent you. Trust me. I hated to do things with other kids and if I was made to , I was very upset. She will grow out of it eventually and there is not need to worry about it. I grew out of it and am not at all shy anymore. I love to socialize with peopel now. I started to grow out of it when I was in high school. Just let her be . Its ok.
2006-12-06 10:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One of my girls was like that, we put them in cheerleading and it helped. She's not as shy anymore, its still there, she doesn't just run up to people and say I'm gonna be your friend but she has opened up.
2006-12-06 12:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by dustbucket40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋