If you knew a woman who was in her mid thirties, divorced 3 kids and she was having unprotected sex with lots of people would you think this is wrong. She blames it on her bipolar and the fact that she doesn't think she is worth anything more than sex with people.
I told her what she is doing is wrong but she doesn't see it like that, she says she was married for 14 years and now wants to enjoy herself a bit, I suggested a few beers but she wants an STD obviously!!
2006-12-06 01:21:16 · 4 answers · asked by dfsdg d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO I see it wrong also. But she could be telling the truth about feeling worthless and that may be why she is doing that. Multiple partners makes her feel wanted and needed. I assume she is taking meds for her bipolar. If not she needs too.
2006-12-06 01:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's difficult to make moral choices and force them onto other people. Obviously you think this is wrong, and I salute your moral fibre. I don't think you're plain and boring.
What I do think is that rather than just judging this woman, you should try and sympathise with her predicament, and try and support and help her.
After the break-up of a marriage anyone might feel emotionally up-and-down, and it seems that her mental illness may be making this worse for her. Her behaviour seems self-destructive, based on a lack of self-esteem. But that's just jargon.
Clearly she doesn't want an STD, no one does. But she feels worthless and that no one cares for her. You, as a concerned person, can help out with that. Give her emotional support. Help look after the kids. Perhaps go with her to a counsellor or psychiatrist. Sit down, if you can, and have a NON-JUDGEMENTAL talk with her about using protection. Chances are when she feels better about herself, she may stop using sex as something to improve her self-esteem. In the meantime, stress to her that she is worth something, that her health is important, and that her kids need her, so she owes it to herself and them to use a condom.
Sex in itself isn't morally wrong, in my book. But seeing someone in trouble, and judging rather than trying to reach out to help them, is.
Also... a few beers probably wouldn't help. Alcohol is a depressant, and if you're bi-polar, chances are that you may have an intolerance to alcohol anyway. So rather than kicking back and feeling relaxed, it could have bad consequences, especially if she's on meds. Ask her round, cook her and her kids dinner, watch an upbeat movie. Be supportive. Give love and understanding. Be the better person.
2006-12-06 09:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Greta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing wrong with this is that it's unprotected. Unless it's driving her kids crazy too. Is lots of sex doing anything to fix the problem of her low self esteem? Is she boinking people's husbands and destroying relationships? After 14 years I suppose she's used to unprotected sex.
You could get her a vibrator. Sex really does help with depression (unlike beer, which tends to make it worse in the long run.)
2006-12-06 09:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by Finish Reading Ugly Rennaissance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sorta self-destructive behavior. Be smart!
2006-12-06 09:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋