Why is having a baby out of wedlock considered a blessing even when God says it's a sin?

Question

I have been praying for a family for over half my life now. I cannot find the woman I'm looking or destined for. I am great with kids and people always tell me I would be a great dad.
I grew believing in God and having faith in him. I see people all around me having so many kids, no boyfriend or husband around. I cannot bash them but still, I so want to be a dad.
So following the Bible all my life, I'm tempted to go out and sleep with someone but I know that would be stupid. Maybe, I'm afraid my kid may have something wrong with it because I went out and sinned.
Maybe I should just go out and do what I want and suffer the consequences later. I keep praying and praying but after so many years, so many people have started their family and God hasn't blessed me with a family yet. It's frustrating.
I know God can do all things. I say silly prayers like I wish He would send angels down and bring me an infant(s) to raise and a way to raise them. Crazy, I know.

Answer 1

don't go to bars or places like that to pick up women go to church socials and activities like that consider marring a widow your age or a divorcee that had a jerk husband check out a good Mormon girl there usually nice and they love kids ........what ever you do don't go sleeping around that's what dogs do and your not a dog are you

Answer 2

I understand your desire to be a father and you would probably make a great dad, but do you want to be a dad that can be with your child every night when you get home from work and be there on the weekends? Well so many kids now days have to split their time with their parents and when you have a commitment to marriage and you share the same morals and beliefs with someone, you have a better chance of raising a family together and it is such a joy to do it the biblical way. I am not saying it is the right way for everyone but we all have our different beliefs and you should be faithful to your beliefs and you won't have to struggle later with going against what you have believed your entire life. You have to really think about what you would want for your child in this situation. You won't suffer the consequence of going out and doing what you want, a child will. I believe God has a plan and we want so badly for it to be on our time but it just doesn't happen and when we force it, it blows up in our face. I know not everyone believes this way and that is fine but I do. A child is a blessing not the act of premarital sex. Pray that God will prepare your life for a family and bring you your soul mate so you can enjoy raising you children together. He sees your heart and knows what you want. Now you have to be patient and really prepare yourself for what God has to offer.

Answer 3

The Bible says to "train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old they won't depart from it". From what I hear you saying in this question, you were raised the right way. I am 36 years old and I am the youngest of 8 grandchildren in my family. I am the only girl to not have children. Four months ago, I was blessed with a beautiful baby girl. I do have a husband. I got married three years ago, and I was told that I could never have kids. God is a kind and true God. He told Sarah that she would have a child, and although she was 90 when she had him, God remained true to his promise. He is the same God yesterday, today and forever. Continue to trust in the faith that you have in Him. He will not allow you to have a child if you aren't ready. He will give you what you want and what you need when He knows that you are ready for that responsibility. Think about where you are in your life right now and what would be the advantage and disadvantage to you having a child at this point in your life. God wants you to continue to believe that He will do this for you. I have found that when I let Him choose my path, He also provides everything I need to follow that path, but when I go and do it on my own, I struggle and lose my way. Think about it, pray about it and keep the faith. God is worth waiting for in this instance. You don't know me, but trust me.
God Bless You.

Answer 4

God will answer your prayer when it is right for Him to do so. And sometimes "No" is His answer. There is a plan and a reason that you have no family yet. Maybe you're even physically incapable. Whatever the reason, don't give in to Satan, because that is who is telling you to go have a baby out of wedlock. And also consider this, if you do sleep with someone, even without her becoming pregnant, you will be stealing from your future wife. Trust me, I am a wife who's husband made that mistake long ago and it hurts me that I am not the only woman he's ever been with. Maybe instead of praying for a family, you should pray for God to make you ready to be a husband and a father. Maybe you should be praying for Him to keep your future wife safe. Maybe you should stop looking for her, and instead make yourself the best man you can be for her. God will bring you a family when the time is right. Don't lose your faith in Him.

Answer 5

I understand you completely my fellow Christian. It is hard for us to realize that God does not think as we do. We all have a purpose, or a mission that God wants us to accomplish. Keep praying, and ask him to show you what he would have you to do. Sometime what we want is not what He wants, and it is so hard for us. I too love children, and I have raised completely or partially four that were not mine. Right now at the age of 57, I have taken in a little boy, from birth, he is now five years old. His parents have him some , but we have him most! I love him more than my own life, and I wonder what is my mission for God. I raise food for old folks, and the Children Home sometimes. I question everything. So, all I can say is just keep praying, and trust that your feelings and the Holly Spirit will guide you.
Now for the births out of wedlock. Do not comfuse the things that man does with the things that God does, The miracle of life is strictly Gods blessing, as with the little babies being conceived and born. The fact that we do wrong, or commit sin, it is our sin and actions, but the creation of life, now matter under what circumstances, is Gods doing , and is blessed. He cannot do anything that is not blessed you see.
May the Grace of Jesus Christ be with you!!! G

Answer 6

Follow your heart and your faith and when the time comes, you will have the child that was destined for you. It's great that you want to be a father, but don't go out and have a kid with someone that you don't love. Don't be one of those men who only get to see their child on the weekends and holidays just because you want to have a baby.

Perhaps God is telling you to adopt a child that needs a father. Just because you can't find the right woman to be your child's mother, doesn't mean that you can't give the gift of a family to a child who needs one.

Being a father isn't all about sperm. Being a father is about love, caring, compassion... maybe your calling is to chose a child.. and give yourself to him/her.. as you would if the child was your own.

Answer 7

Any child being born is another life created by God, thats why it is a blessing, no matter the circumstances. But also sin is sin. You don't want to live the rest of your life knowing that your child was created in sin while whoring around. Do things the right way, with the blessing and love of God, and you will be much happier and blessed.

Answer 8

Parenting is very hard. I think in a perfect world God would want a mother and a father to raise the child. Parenting is one of the hardest things in the world to do when you have two parents, extremely hard with one parent. I think one parent is much better than living in an orphanage or living with parents that might be drug users or in trouble with the law. These people are incapable of raising kids. I think you are a special guy, and if it is in your means try to adopt a child that you can make a special difference in your life. Alot has changed since God has been around.

Answer 9

Perhaps, instead of burdening yourself with sin or temptation, you could take on a child to adopt, or become a foster parent. There are so many children out there who have no loving parents and need someone to care for them; why bring someone new into the world who would cause you guilt? God put these babies in the world for a reason, and they need someone to help raise them. I would suggest looking towards that.

Answer 10

This is a hard thing. Because I know exactly what you are talking about. I see many women flip flop in and out of beds have many children only to half care for them.

Join a large church and get involved in their singles programs. You should not only find someone but find someone that has the same beliefs that you have.

You can also look into adoption. I think it is harder for men to adopt but things are changing.

Good Luck

Answer 11

Nothing will be wrong with an innocent if born out of sin (what a paradox). Some people can't have children at all. I am trying to have one, but I don't think that I can, so you have to keep focused on God and the destiny he has mapped out for you.