So my girlfriend is bi and that's really okay with me. The thing is that her best friend is a lesbian so of course I'm scared of that developing too much or something.
I really love my girlfriend, more than anyone else in my life. The thing is that she says she doesn't pick favorites and so she cares about that best friend and another friend as much as she cares about me.
Am I wrong to be jealous? I'm friends with the other friend, but not with the lesbian and my girlfriend got mad at me for that last night. She and her friends say that she loves me in a different way than the other two, but I want her to love me MORE than them. Is that wrong? I mean, it's not like I'm going to break up with her over it, if that's the way she is, that's the way she is, but I just want to know if I'm expecting to much and maybe what I should do.
2006-12-06 01:00:59 · 28 answers · asked by Some Guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just some clarifications,
She's not having sex with this other girl.
She has told me that she loves me in a different way than the other girl.
I am a boy, not a girl as somebody was mistaken. (funny people on this website.)
2006-12-06 10:54:41 · update #1
If you are looking for a relationship with this girl, you are barking up the wrong tree. She sounds like she does not want a relationship and likes playing. You are just a player in the game. I would find someone who can commit, or just simply keep playing along with the game. Choice is yours. Good Luck.
2006-12-06 01:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your situation, I would feel jealous too - and a little uneasy. To me, a romantic relationship should give us (most of the time anyway) that warm and fuzzy feeling. That's difficult to get when your bi girlfriend's best friend is lesbian. But, that's just my feeling.
Over the years, I've found that letting my heart get too far away from me before I determined if it was "safe" to do so is what tripped me up the most. It sounds like you and your girlfriend have already had discussions about this issue. I think the only thing left for you to do is to ask yourself if you're really getting what you want/need from this relationship. Relationships should make us relaxed and happy - not anxious and questioning.
My best to you...
By the way, Alex A, if Answers is paying attention, you'll get a violation for your "answer" - which will be classified as a "non-answer". If you didn't want to answer the question, why put that idiotic comment???
2006-12-06 01:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by loveblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just friends with her and it is understandable- it is someone that she shares common grounds with. But if you cannot trust her, you need to move on. Trust is very important in a relationship, and without it, you will not be happy, nor will she. A relationship is 2 people. So you rightfully deserve what you are looking for. Re acess the situation. If you are not getting all you need in this, then know you need to look elsewhere. You cannot expect her to change for you, anymore than you changing for her. Good luck!
2006-12-06 01:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by big mommasweeta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing here is there are different kinds of love. If you are jealous of the dyke then you probably have reason to be right? If she has ever told you that she loves all ya'll the same then get rid of her because there should be a huge difference in the way she loves you.
2006-12-06 01:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that with this relationship you are entering a world in which you don't belong. You will always feel "left out" because you would like to accept her sexual preferences, but you don't share them...and you can't because those preferences are not in your nature.
If you want a true straight answer: Your relationship is not meant to be, it won't work, and it will hurt you badly. You want to be priority, and you are not. Your jealousy means that deep inside you'd want to have an exclusive position in her heart, but you don't have it.
Birds of a feather flock together...and you are not that kind of bird!
2006-12-06 01:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Mardesal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever watched Friends? I hope you won't end up like Ross.
So she's having two relationship now, I don't care if she's bisexual or what the thing is she's having two relationship! Whether with a girl, its still the same as having a relationship with another man!
You better have a consensus with her that she would only stick to only YOU.. Thats all, or else leave her!
2006-12-06 01:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by raymondalcatraz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, you are not wrong. Any guys would be jealous. It would be the same as if you had a straight girlfriend who had a guy friend she said she loved as much as you. Doesn't sound good to me.
2006-12-06 01:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by Atousa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the first place just because she's bi doesn't mean she can't be faithful. She is obviously playing the field so if you are into a serious relationship move on. It is not worth making yourself miserable over her sexuality.
2006-12-06 01:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a poor and a lucky bastard at the same time!:p
Anyway...to answer your question, no, you are not wrong! it's ok to be jelouse...but don't be obsessive. I'd just be careful, in this situation, it's really hard to trust your girlfriend....I know I wouldn't.... good luck mate!
2006-12-06 01:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by Money 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her . You want a monogomous relationship and she doesn't. You will always feel second. She doesn't respect your feelings. She's all "ME,ME,ME". Start over with someone that wants you and only you. You won't ever be her "favorite". She has too many"friends". Wake up and admit that you don't want your heart trampled on.No guy wants to be second to a lesbian. Tell her it's her or me!
2006-12-06 01:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by moose on the loose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋