I was 20 and she was 17 we met at a club, back then we were each others 1st boyfriend / girlfriend and had the best time ever and have a lot in common... we split as we lived about 2 hours away from each other and she wanted to live it up with her mates etc... when we split we agreed to get back in contact in 10 years time which i thought would never happen, until i done a search on friendsreunited... she wanted to meet up straight away, which we have done a few times recently and it's just like the times we had 9 years ago, no love lost type of thing..... really cool and still fancy each other.. has anyone been in this position? whats the best way to handle it with out it fooookin our heads up? quite an emotional rollercoaster, many thanks!
2006-12-06 00:43:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like you're perfect for each other, you just met too early on. You both wanted to have fun without being tied down, which is what you've done. The fact that she's still thought about you this far on is such a strong sign that you are right for each other. People in long-distance relationships are often just holding out for a time when they can be together properly again - you've done it a different way and it's worked! You're so lucky! Just take it slowly, don't leap back into what you had before. You've got nine years to catch up on, so find out what's been going on in each others' lives etc and sooner or later everything will work itself out! Also a good idea to take it slowly to make sure that you're not just so happy because you're overwhelmed - take time to be sure of your feelings and during that time make sure you're open with each other. Good luck!!
2006-12-06 00:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by mishmash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation! I was 15 and he was 16 when we first started dating and went out for a couple of years until we went our separate ways to Uni. Now after 10 years we reconnected and discovered that our feelings are just as strong--although now he lives in the States and I live in London getting my postgrad (talk about lousy timing!). We have decided that the best way to handle this situation is to just be open and honest with one another.
Obviously something (call it God, call it fate, call it luck, call it whatever) brought us (and you guys) back together and even if the relationship doesn't work, there is so much emotional history invested that we wouldn't want to throw it away. I agree, it is an emotional rollarcoaster, but remember that you're riding it together--talk to each other!
Also, remember that both of you have changed over the years--don't dwell on how things were then and neglect the now. Really, you've got a new relationship with new challenges, but with a person you are already comfortable with.
Best wishes!
2006-12-06 00:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by amarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really sure she fancies you too or you're just second-guessing her? Perhaps she is just glad to be reunited with an old flame whom she still have a lot in common with?
Best to try it out by talking to her and lay everything on the table dude.
Immortality, Take it! It's Yours! *nguck*
2006-12-06 00:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is such an amazing story. I would recommend starting it off a bit slow. There have to be so many emotions pent up between you too, but if it's something that you really want to make last, then take your time.
2006-12-06 00:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by Brit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very sweet that after all these years you two still have a thing for each other. You may be soulmates you never know. Just go with it and see where it leads. Communicate with each other on how you feel and let nature takes it course. Wish I coulda heard your accent on this though........mmmmmmmmmmmm.....love that UK accent.
2006-12-06 00:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you want to take it worry-free and basically be with associates and do belongings you savor while not having each person else to fret about. you want to heal very much. you had a actual connection and its tricky to get again to that element espeicalyl once you basically lost it over something stupid; w hich regrettably does ensue. issues will turn round; its gunna take time tho. i'll narrate. i didnt acutally date the fellow altho it felt like it in a fashion with my situation. i ahve a sparkling guy now thats a lot extra valuable notwithstanding it doesnt substitute the actuality that theres nevertheless a par tof the previous in me.
2016-10-16 12:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by stever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be fated to be together. Just go with the flow and take it a day at a time.
2006-12-06 00:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my motto on life is never take a step back only take one forward. the past is always best left there.
2006-12-06 03:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it really slow.Nine years is a long time.You are both different people now.
2006-12-06 21:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends first.
2006-12-06 01:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by Say It Like You Mean It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋