hi...ppl pls help me..ma frnd got concieved after 3yrs of married life. it waz a good news.... but after 8 months in labour, due to some sickness she lost her baby before the delivery. i'm extremely sad about this news i've heard she's been crying always & moreover she's sensitive i dunno how to approach her & console her.....pls temme a way......
2006-12-06 00:40:01 · 12 answers · asked by ajax456 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't help her. Whatever help or consoling have to be done by the husband to gain maximum effects. Unless you made her pregnant in the first place.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-06 00:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be real with you... No matter what and how you put a smile on this person face you will never bring her baby back so, dont feel bad. But that friend of yours need you by her side. hug her and tell her that you are with her and that god is with her. Just let her know that this happened for a reason. God is looking at her and is trying to give her the right thing and is takin her to the right path. Just let her know that the game isn't over theres other days, weeks,months and years to try again. Just tell her that you will be there all the way. best of Luck to you!
2006-12-06 00:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by rican mami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend is like family.Let her know your there to help her any way you can.Maybe it's time to start going out for lunch.You have to try to get her to live her life.Grief is a natural part of a lost but so is living.And ensure her that you feel for her lost, but you are tring to look out after her because yous are still best friends.If she feels guilty about the passing, suggest yous go out shopping for a gift for her lost one to take to the site.This might be the first step she needs.When you lose some to death, you feel alone.At time you get mad really mad.Some people treat you at a distance,when all you really need is a hug.
Hope this helps in some way.
2006-12-06 00:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Comfort is the only thing that can help her. being there with her and doing whatever she needs is all. Maybe offer to take her out like out of town for a week or so. Doing that helps a lot. Esp for people who just lost a baby. Getting away helps, offer that to her.
2006-12-06 01:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad and deppressing situation. It can really miss someone up really bad. Losing someone that you've been used to for 8 mons. Give her time. When you feel that you are comfortable with helping her and giving her time to cry on your shoulder then you will be her best friend!
2006-12-06 02:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by BIG RED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have got a best friend, who's mom was killed in a car accident and my friend was driving the car. My friend survived and is now blaming herself for her mom dying, i am not good with dealing with things like this but i knew that she needed me as she really needed to chat. BUT nothing we say or do will ever bring a loved one back, we just need to be there to support them when ever they need to talk, send them sms messages all the time just say hi and that you are thinking about them, only time will heal there pain, they will never forget, they will just learn how to live with the pain, Shame just be there for her when she needs you and be the good friend that you are.
2006-12-06 00:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start off by telling her that you are there if she needs you no what. Tell her that you are really sorry about what happened to her baby. Let her know not to worry because God has a bigger plan for her baby.
2006-12-06 00:49:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is say you're sorry and let her talk. Just having someone who will listen when she's ready to talk will be the best thing you can do for her. It will take time for her to get over the loss and she will never forget so don't expect her to.
2006-12-06 00:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by ladyrn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this world everybody has to face his moments of happiness / grief. No one can help it. Ony thing one can do is to talk and let the emotions of happiness/grief come out. This way, happiness increases and grief decreases.
2006-12-06 00:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by Titu66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she needs some space to grieve on her own right now. pray for her and just let her know you're there for her whenever she needs you. sometimes people don't want/need words, they just need to know they're not alone. her husband is probably also grieving and he might not be able to console her at this time.
2006-12-06 00:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by adeleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋