It's not for lack of trying.I stopped asking girls out 7 years ago.When every reply you get is a 'No' it can be defeating.As of four years ago i've stopped going out(another story).And have cut down my list of friends to 2.
I look like n extra from"Conan The Barbarian" and people are easily intimidated when they first meet me,without me doing anything !
Everyone keeps asking me why this is so ? I don't really hve an answer.All i know is that im relly miserable.It seems like the hardest thing to do in the world.Allthough i've kept myself busy with my hobbies(playing the guitar,soccer,reading,working out etc.I cant seem to stop being depressed when i think about it.
I'm very good at putiting on a happy face for everyone so no one really knows about my situation.
Is there anything that i can do to change this ? Have missed the train 15 years ago ?Am i to be forever this way.I now i'm the only one who can change my fortune but and advice would be welcomed.
2006-12-06 00:22:01 · 5 answers · asked by dbeast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You answered yourself....you are the one who decides your fortunes....just try and think positive...and, most of all, forget the past....there is someone for each and everyone of us out there...
go find her...good luck!
2006-12-06 00:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of your good qualities, what you have to offer in a relationship. Then look at your bad qualities and change what you don't like about yourself. Determine your own values and get a clear picture of the kind of person you want to be with. Then get out there and start meeting people (without thinking relationship from the start) and making friends. Concentrate on being the right person, instead of finding the right person. The rest will take care of itself. And be willing to take some risks! Nothing in life worth having, comes without a risk.
2006-12-06 08:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by adeleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be confident in yourself. Try getting to know someone before asking them out, it really helps and it worked for me on countless occasions. Try not to be nervous when you talk to women ( I know, its a tough one) and be yourself. There is someone out there for you, you just have to find her. Also, I'm not sure how you dress, but stores like American Eagle and Express for Men are great places to get some nice clothes....it does make a difference and it will help you build your confidence when you realize that you do look better......thats what happened to me.
And one last thing....Don't take rejection personally, think of it as her loss! Good luck Bro
2006-12-06 08:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by to be taken seriously 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said it yourself, of your problem for the last 4-7yrs, you should widen your social circle from just 2.
How many girls do you expect that 2 to lead you to? If a caterpillar keeps staying in its cocoon,it will always be a worm. Geddit?
2006-12-06 08:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really you never ever dated a girl in your whole life?!? i just can't believe that
even by flirting...?
2006-12-06 08:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by funguyfr19 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋