i am a bast.ard. i have this girl as my gf, she was so nice to me, so loving, and yet i thought i wanted my ex. they both visited me in the hospital when i was really sick, there then i realised, how much i want my gf to stay with me forever. i've neglected her, i've lied to her, i've did horrible things to her, made her cried but she still loved me nonetheless. but i didn't cherish her. i thought i loved my ex, i tried to get back with her, i told her i loved her, but i regretted. i finally realised who i really love. i cut off my contacts with my ex, i told myself, no that is not the girl i want to be with, i will not be happy with her. i am glad i did that and i feel so free now, only unfortunate thing is, my gf is no longer with me, i want her back so much, but she's so hurt by me, so hurt, she trembles at the thought of me, should i go get her back ? or should i just let her go ? i really need to know... i do not want to hurt her anymore.
2006-12-06 00:21:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how much do you want her back? after so much lies, ur words don give her assurance anymore, ur words don weigh as much anymore, n it has always been words.
actions.
if u really want her back bad enuff, then u shldn worry about hurting her again.
cos a determined heart wouldn be thinking of mistakes it'll create. it's suppose to be willing, strong n hopeful. if you are not determined enuff to make things work again then e want is just not strong enuff.
plus, u're gonna need to sacrifice alot of items from e past to prove ur sincerity to start off again. can u bear to do it?
these are all that u need to think about n you'll know wad u want.
2006-12-06 04:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by wallybelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should leave her be... I've been in her shoes n its not nice! u need to ask your self if u did get back together would it happen again but with a different girl or even with the ex again.
if u have hurt her she needs time to heal.... think about it long n hard if u did get bk together would things really change or would it change for a week or two then return to how it was b4. me n my ex tried a few times to change things and it never worked. were both a lot happier now with diff partners and still speak.
2006-12-06 08:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by sage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can let her know how you feel, and the rest is up to her. Do learn the lesson of your actions though, and how often when we discard something we cannot get it back.
Take responsibility for your actions and if you have to move on, then do so...but remember what happened in this situation so you don't repeat it down the road.
Treat people as you would like to be treated...ya pretty much can't go wrong with that...
2006-12-06 08:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to really be sure u like this girl and you're not one of the guys that wakes up only when they are rejected...then try and tell her honestly what you feel, the whole thing with the good and the bad points and tell her that you regret everything...then wait for an answer. Also tell her that if she says so u won't bother her again, but if she wants you too, you will make up for everything
2006-12-06 08:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't realize that they have a good thing until it's gone, so when you were lying, cheating and doing her wrong she still stood by your side. she's still human and it's only so much a girl can take until she' s fed up with you. N e ways my personal opinion i think u should leave her alone, she will never love you like she did before, the trust isn't there. it's just a messy situation so just leave it be.
2006-12-06 08:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by brittanyknewman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know...I've gone through that before in the past!I understand what happened to you, although not knowing what happened to make you have an ex???Anyway...if you really love or feel that you want this other girl...you have to tell her...and be prepared to hear things you don't want to hear!But...just keep on trying!!!With time and if you're really patient...she'll start trusting you!Good luck!
2006-12-06 08:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by jokersmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not yet mature enough to have a relationship with anybody.
Have some time out, and look at yourself, and the way you have behaved. Hopefully you will eventually reach a point where you are able to relate to somebody else without hurting them.
2006-12-06 08:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by langdonrjones 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are that passionate about getting her back put the good/bad/ugly on the table and beg for forgiveness and her love and show how you love and need her in your life. I do not know if the things you have put her through have ruined all your chances of reconnecting you must respect that with grace and love that you Will carry with you for life's memories and lessons .
2006-12-06 08:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to hurt her, let her go.
Ive had a boyfriend before that treated me like you treated her, and you know how i got over it?
I didnt talk to him for a year.
I know its extreme but the heart needs time to heal, and you've taken away her decision to not have a broken heart. If you love her, let her heal, leave her alone, but remind her if she forgives your or wants to talk you'll be there, otherwise, you leave her alone.
2006-12-06 08:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by mettophobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her.. Write her a letter if she wont talk to you.. People make mistakes and sometimes they actually learn from them.. Tell her you love her and only her.. Maybe she will give you a 2nd chance. Wont know unless you try. .Good Luck.. and by the way dont cheat on her anymore.. Thats not a good thing..
2006-12-06 08:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by Indymom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋