My fiance' and I don't beleive in sex before marriage. We're both still virgins. I'm nervous about our wedding night. I want it to be special. And I want to make him happy. I'm afraid I'll not please him. What can I do to calm my fears?
2006-12-06 00:17:57 · 17 answers · asked by R.L. B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You say he's a virgin too, I'm sure he has the same fears about you. You just need to realize that sex may not be all its cracked up to be the first time you do it.. After you both learn what to do it will get better. I promise!!! Be patient and things will be ok! Good Luck Dear
2006-12-06 00:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Indymom 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all I want to congratulate you on your engagement and your ability to abstain from sexual intercourse before marriage. Some couples will not have sex before they get married but do have oral sex and other forms of sexual gratification. If you have done other things then the wedding night shouldn't be any different. You can start out the same way that you would as if you were just messing around as usual and then nature will take it's course. If you haven't even done any of that then just take it slow and let the love that you both share for each other guide the way and before you know it the butterflies will be gone and you'll both be showing each other how much you mean to each other in another way. Good luck and Congratulations again.
2006-12-06 00:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by ws_422 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
great job waiting b/c virginity is the best gift someone can give to their spouse. i say he loves you and shares the same belief as you so don't worry about pleasing him b/c it's not about pleasing but about the sanctity of the act. like i said since you two have the same belief maybe you're both having the same worry? be confident and you'll have a great time. you're waiting, you're standing through the test of time, and in the end on that fateful night you will make him the happiest man alive. also CONGRATS on the wedding. now no more worrying and go find yourself THE sexiest victoria's secret lingere (that you feel comfortable in) and make you man proud!!! :)
2006-12-06 03:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by bcos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down honey. You'll be fine. There is no way you won't please him. You are most likely the one who will be somewhat disappointed. Don't worry, its perfectly normal for sex not to be great at first, especially for the women.
Since you're a virgin, it will take you a while to learn what pleases you, and it will take your husband a while to do the same. He will need to learn control. Just be honest and open with each other. Explore each other. Be patient and loving and kind. Have fun. Sex should be fun. Good luck.
2006-12-06 00:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by Firespider 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
first of all you need to worry about him pleasing you for a man will always achieve his satisfaction but not so with women.women require so much more stimulation than men when it comes to sex and just learning what pleases him is only half the battle.Please don't think that the sex is just for him after all you waited your self and you are entitled to some real good sexual action.Get some love making videos and try things with each other and find out what satisfies you and him individually,as well as a couple.The scriptures say the marriage bed is undefiled which means what ever marries people do in their marriage bed is OK with the Lord.Please make sure your man is interested in pleasing you as much as you want to please him,believe me he is much easier to please than you will be.
2006-12-06 00:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is not to panic. Unfortunately we put too much pressure on the wedding night. It is a natural act and it will happen. Relax and enjoy the moment, the wedding, everything. It happens so fast.
2006-12-06 01:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by travelguruette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really shouldn't matter. Marriage is about love, right? I honestly wouldn't worry about it. I'm sure it will be a spur of the moment thing so just relax. If it's your first time, and his also, you will both do fine and it will get better as you do it more often.
2006-12-06 00:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, Im in the same boat as you. Me and my man are getting married in a week, and we are virgins as well.
Here is my advice.
You Have no one to compare it to, so thats a good thing.
Its scary, but if you are insecure, then it will only make the Wedding night not as special.
My mom tells me, just have fun and relax. God intended it for enjoyment between a husband and wife.
You will please Him, Because He has never experienced it Anywhere else, so how will he compare? He cant.
2006-12-06 00:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
just go with the flow, you will learn what each other likes and this will develop over time. If you are not sure you could always do a bit of reading or best still why not talk to your husband to be about it?
2006-12-06 00:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you have to define sex. Is sex penetration? Is sex petting? Is sex kissing? Is sex hugging?
Most people define sex as penetration by the others sex organ. With this in mind, perhaps you should try heavy petting. This would include rubbing, playing and mutual masturbation. If this is pleasing and gets you worked up, then I'm sure after marriage you won't have any problems going a little further. This should calm your fears.
2006-12-06 00:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋