First of all, I am a very private person and normally don't like to talk about feelings...but I think i need some input (from behind a fairly anonymous screen. If you are an asshοle or otherwise have a mind of a 12-year old troll - then stop reading now and leave.)
I think things started getting in motion when i visited my first strip club a couple months ago..something that I left with made me want something more in life. I now seem to be having a difficult time justifying playing simulated, graphic first-person shooter games and jacking off to naked pictures of women.
I have never been in a relationship and frankly I have never been able to tell anyone why, except for the fact that I am afraid...of something. I have no problems with health/car/job..but when I want something more I usually blow it off saying that a realtionship would cost me money and take time away from school and my job.
I guess i am just looking for input at this point..thank you for reading.
2006-12-05 23:53:00 · 12 answers · asked by [ΦΘΚ] ﮎl4CK3R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
attracted to women...just have a hard time relating
2006-12-06 00:03:53 · update #1
uh oh, sounds like you are starting to mature.. good for you. Maybe you are getting tired of searching for a brief sexual encounter and are maturing to the point where you are starting to get interested in forming a relationship with someone. I am not talking "ready for marriage", just ready to start dating for companionship and not just sex.
Why not go cold turkey on the games and leave jr. alone for a week? You might use the time you save to take a girl you are attracted to out for a cup of coffee (not expensive and non-commital) and have a conversation with a real person. It sounds like you are needing companionship instead of anonymous sexual stimulation.
P.S.Time won't be taken away from work or school because it is time you would have spent playing games, etc.
2006-12-06 00:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by dedum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a very private, shy, person who is apprehensive about embarking on a relationship. Good for you. So many people steam in without any thoughts for the consequences. I think you're just not ready. You obviously take this type of relationship more seriously than most. When you are ready and you meet the right person, I think you'll do very well.
2006-12-06 07:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly,I think you're just feeling inferior,somehow. I don't know you too well to tell you what you're lacking, but I do know a few people who aren't lacking in any aspect but still feel that they are not good enough.
Confidence is the key word.
The way you start your whole question says it all.
A confident person would not include those words in the bracket among their question. Simply because,you know very well by posting a question online,you are inviting all sorts of feedback,including insults and you could jolly well ignore them or slime them back.
See if I'm wrong dude. Good Luck!
2006-12-06 08:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations--you are growing up. You are realizing that you want a relationship and that you no longer see women just as sex objects. I am not a guy--but I do have brothers and I have seen this "change" in them.(of course--not the j/o part) They realized that the are wanting something more and that they start treating women different.
Or, it could mean that you are not attracted to women---thought about that?
2006-12-06 08:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are just seeing that it might be nice to have a companion in life someone to share your thoughts and events that happened in your day in all actuality i think you are growing up i mean you cant please yourself by yourself forever you need to know that someone else has that magic touch that only you used to possess
good luck honey
and as for the money and getting in the way of school thing the relationship only gets out of control if you let your partner doesnt have to run all over your but you can shoew her a good time still
2006-12-06 07:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by LiL mAmMa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out, you play video games and have never been in a relationship? what a shock, get a life, even your so called Troll's have more of a life. Grow some stones.
2006-12-06 08:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will one day find a nice young lady,who will like you for you.And not for what you can do for her.All females are not gold diggers.You are under alot of stress,try to relax or you may be jacking off too much.
2006-12-06 07:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships cause people to go crazy. Strip clubs and fps games are much safer.
2006-12-06 07:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stick to the pictures and games, school and your job. You are not ready.
2006-12-06 07:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-12-06 07:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by Ithea Nzau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋