i got rejected a while ago and i still cant seem to get her off my mind. the other thing on my mind that bothers me is how long i waited to ask her out only to shoot me down and embarass me. what should i do?
2006-12-05 23:42:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Getting rejected hurts a lot especially when you took a lot of time to gather your courage to ask the girl you want but you have to also consider the saying that there are many fishes in the ocean. She's not the only one left on earth so you will eventually meet someone more deserving than her.
2006-12-05 23:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Confused Loner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have you learnt from this? You spent ages plucking up the courage to ask her out, then got rejected. Was it less embarrassing and upsetting than if you had asked her straight away and been rejected. First lesson, don't wait, if you're going to be rejected it's better to get it over with, if you're not, you don't want to have wasted all that valuable time.
There are ways and ways of rejecting people. If she left you feeling that bad she's clearly not a very nice person. Obviously you can't just stop thinking about her. That's impossible. It's like saying OK don't think about daffodils..........what are you thinking about......obviously daffodils now. Find other things to fill the gap. You will feel better, in time.
2006-12-06 07:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people have been through this atleast once.
You should find some comfort in the fact that atleast you had enough guts to ask her out in the first place! Thats further than I (and most people) get most of the time! Good work!
There really isn't much that you can do to get it to stop bothering you except to give it time and try to do things that you enjoy so that it isn't on your mind all the time. Eventually you will move on and forget about it.. or atleast it won't seem like a big deal.
2006-12-06 07:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up, make up and move on! Breaking up is the easy part because this is ego, making up is the hardest - because you have to forgive even when someone is not worth it and who may not accept the jester of forgiveness. But ah! moving on. That takes courage. My barometer is that it takes 9 months to make a baby it should take 9 months to make a real relationship--therefore it will probably take you nine months to get that person out of your mind.
Well those our life cycles, but what is important is what you do in the interim. No.1 look at the good things about the relationship and keep those in your memeories and close your eyes and take all the bad and throw it in the ocean. No.2 look at you as a person and know that "God Don't Make Junk," and "God Does not make mistake."
2006-12-06 07:50:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sports Maven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. A painful rejection, at least for me, tends to wipe out any sweet feelings I had toward that person. Rejection is okay...it happens and is to be expected, but there are people who could do it more gently.
If she was particularly unkind to you or didn't handle it as well as she should have, then be thankful you didn't get with someone who is so callous and unkewl. Consider it a positive thing that you aren't wasting time with someone like that.
2006-12-06 07:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being rejected and feeling like hell about it is usually just a way of feeling low about yourself. Rejection has a way of making us see ouselves as worthless as we feel that way in the eyes of the other. Go out and succeed at something. It doesen't have to be another girl. It can be anything.
Go do something you do well, pat youself on the back. You'll get over it soon enough. Promise.
2006-12-06 07:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is always so, the longer we wait, the more pictures we create in our mind about the person. Eventually we are not able to see the real person but just our imagination.
That's why it hurts so much.
Try to look at the person without pink-glasses. Look, she's not that perfect, is she?
And say to yourself that if she rejected you it means that she's blind and can't see how great man you are..! If I were in her shoes I would never do this :)
Keep your head up and sing "there's plenty more fish in the see"..
And remember that maybe just tomorrow you will meet someone who will change your life.
And... when she's 40 and alone she will regret :) I'm sure!
2006-12-06 07:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by asfourtek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back on the horse. (Ask another girl)
Don't let it bother you so much. There's way too many girls out there to let just one get you this down.
And get used to rejection. Most guys get it more often then not.
2006-12-06 07:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by drunkenmonkeyphx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else to focus your attention to... The best way to get over someone is with somone else!!!
So get out there and start dating!!!
Good luck!!!
2006-12-06 07:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else as soon as you can!
2006-12-06 07:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋