Help me out here... Son did something...?

Question

Well last night I caught my son looking at porn. I was shocked but he understood not to do it again. I deleted all the records of him doing it so his mother wouldnt find out. Now she did a spybot search and destroy a while later and noted something she saw on it labeled 'adult porn'. She was questioning me about it and I told her she was seeing things. I was lucky she believed me. Now Im stuck having to worry about her doing a spybot again and seeing that. She would go wild if she saw what our son had done. If anyone could please just tell me where exactly spybot searches on the hard disc and registry I would be so thankful. So would my son too, I just dont want my wife finding out what he did. So again, where exactly does spybot search in the registry and hard disc and how do I remove it? I know the basics like going into regedit but dont have a clue where to look. Please help someone.

Answer 1

See you got everything totally wrong. As parents both of you should know that growing children would have a passion to know about sex and therefore they naturally seek methods and internet has open the gateway to many a kid these days. Hence what I would suggest is to tell the truth to your wife and explain it to her that this is the natural behaivour of the children and then both of you jointly educate your child telling him what is sex and at what age it should be done and what are the ill effects of it if it is done prematurely. Simply scolding the child would either make them unruly or they may become a mental wreck and hate sex totally making things worse when they ought to get married and enjoy a healthy sex life.

Answer 2

With all of the bizarre things a teen can run into on the internet, I see your concern. I think that the reason sex has become a nonattached degradation, rather than a true intimate pleasure because of the vulgarity expressed. Although adults understand this is all an act, and that porn stars are truly actors and actresses, I think that teenagers don't grasp this concept. When a young mind is subjected to all sort of things that are completely strange, it begins to accept those things as normal. I think it's good that you gave your son a second chance regarding his explorations on the internet. I would suggest you create a profile with your internet service provider that limits the amount of internet he has access to. His interest in sex is absolutely normal and yes, there's ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with being curious. HOWEVER, the way the porn industry displays intimacy is harmful for a child that doesn't know better. All that said, you may want to talk to your wife but not entirely about what happened with your son. For example say: Do you remember when you saw that adult porn file on the Spybot search? I am not saying for sure, but since we both know we didn't do it maybe our son received an email that posed as something else, then clicked it and it downloaded to the computer. Maybe we should see about security restrictions, so he doesn't "accidentally" log on to any sites. I bet he wouldn't say anything because I am sure he is embarrassed.

Answer 3

Why would you not tell your wife.She should be aware of this so
you can both keep an eye on what your son is looking at.All kids
are curious but you both need to protect him and teach him how to respect sex and women.I have always been open with my boys about sex and so has my husband.You can't hide from it,
it's a natural thing.If you teach him to hide the truth you are getting
him off to a bad start.Plus I have warned my boys that if I find
they are looking at things that aren't appropriate I will put parental
control on the computer or I will all together shut the internet off.
They know I will.My boys are 17 and 15 so we know they are
curious but they also know we are serious.Tell your wife and chalk
it up to a lesson learned by all.Keep your computer out in the open and don't let your son spend too much alone time on it.
You are never going to teach him anything if you teach him to hide.

Answer 4

I am ashamed that you have protected your son's
behaviour from your wife.
Your committment is to her and to keeping your family safe.
By telling him not to do it again... Helloooooooo
Are you in there... really!!!!!
She needs to know and you have crossed the boundry of being a good partner and parent...
You have no idea how and where this could lead. Do you really think this is the first time?????... Get a grip... By covering the crime you are letting him know it is okay to lie and deceive and you are setting the poor example as a role model...
Is this the kind of person you want your son to be??? You can bet Mom would be on his tail like a flea on a dog.. as they say... You have a responsibility to tell her...
If this gets out of hand what will you tell her 2 years down the line..... or will you just play stupid....
I can't believe your immature attitude...
You had better get your morals and principles in the forefront here and wake up and smell the coffee.
You know what is happening to the youth of today with porn and the likes.....Open your newspaper, listen to the news....
Tell your wife.....

Answer 5

John, are you sure it was your son? You sound like you are in quite a panic. I do know men that have been discovered looking at porn and blamed the first teenaged boy around.

Okay, in the event it wasn't you, you need to tell your wife what is going on. I did catch my son, through history on the computer. Since there is not a father in my household, I dealt with it the best way I knew how. I tried to explain to him that it is natural to be curious, but that he is not allowed to view porn on my computer. Then I told him that he needs to respect women and told him that those women are somebody's daughter, sister, and possibly moms. Is that the way you would want the females in your family viewed? Yes, we all know it is their choice but they made some bad decisions and probably really regret it. I don't think the talk was that significant, but having it with his mom was very embarrassing for him.

Answer 6

You want to use a few things NOT just Spybot...

Use CCLEANER (www.ccleaner.com) and Adaware (www.dowload.com)

If he is going to sites that use things spybot can find, then he needs to be careful.. If he is interested in porn, and you want to make sure he is safe on the comp, there are plenty of sites that are safe...

Why would your wife be upset??? How old is your son??? He has an interest in naked women, that is natural, she needs to get over it!!!

Answer 7

What is wrong with sharing the parenting and not being so over-protective of the kid? Do you think he possibly knew he was doing something wrong? TELL HER what happened or better yet, have the kid tell her. You are support to put up a united front for the children. If you protect him in this situation, I predict you'll be visiting him in jail later on in his life. His mother should know the thruth. Godloveya.

Answer 8

why cant his mother know her son was looking at it? And heads up, she doesnt believe you. We are not stupid, we know what adult porn means. And she may even think it's you covering up for yourself and may now hold a grudge against you. So, it's better to just tell her.. She will flip out, but holding stuff from her will make things worse when she really does find out on her own.. Or even worse, her thinking its you doing it.

Answer 9

I think you should just tell your wife and tell her that you handeled it. A curious young person is just that as long as he dosent do it again. Covering for him is not going to help.

Answer 10

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