i just found out that theres a possibility that my dad is not my real dad.. and i feel so hurt and confused and my life has suddenly halted for a while.. i have a lot in mind and i couldnt bear losing my dad.
2006-12-05 23:31:06 · 10 answers · asked by Michelle M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I take it that because your upset, you really love "your father". Well in that case does it really matter weather or not he was that man that was with your mom the night she conceived?
Is that what makes a dad?
I don't think so.
If he's been there for you and treated you with love and respect, then he is your dad.
I know a biological father who isn't worth the name father.
It's about what he is to you.
Not what he did many years ago.
Think about it.
In your heart, is he your dad???
If so love him as a father.
2006-12-06 01:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Louw D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Father you know raised you, took care of you when you were sick and has been there for you...he is your real father. As for the biological father, it's up to you if you want to meet him or pursue a relationship with him but I wouldn't let it interfere with or take the place of the relationship you have with the father you've known your whole life. I say this because my biological father left when I was a baby. My Mom remarried when I was 3 and my stepfather adopted me and gave me his name. I've never met my biological father and don't care to. My father is the only Dad I need and he's the one who raised me. I consider him my only father. I wish you well and good luck.
2006-12-06 00:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be horrified.But it doesn't really matter the blood relation.Whoever treated you as their daughter and raised you is what counts.Any man can be a "father" but it's a special man who can be a "daddy".You know who raised you and who taught you right from wrong,as well as who helped you to develope into the person that you are.Run with that hon.You'll never lose the love from the one you've always called dad.
2006-12-05 23:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by CML 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he IS your dad. he raised you, loved you and took care of you. If you think that's not a dad, I dont know what one is. Doesnt matter if he's not your birth father at all. Maybe your birth father is a jerk and wouldnt want to take care of you. Things happen for a reason, maybe this was the best thing for you!!
2006-12-06 01:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would probably cry and put all the fault on my mom for lying to me and get over it cuz she just did it to make the best for me to grow up with two parents and then cry cuz my dad real dad left us alone but it will all be fine after hanging out with both youre fathers cuz everyone has to forgive :[ :]
2006-12-06 09:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the man that raised you took care of you, loved you and you loved him, then he is your "real" father. The other person would be referred to as your "birth father." If you are curious about him, explain to your current dad that you respect, love and regard him as your father, but you want to know more about your birth father for genetic reasons. This is a natural curiosity.
2006-12-05 23:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jesse2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man raised you he is your dad, don't worry about the bio thing
2006-12-05 23:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how he treats me. If he treats me like his own then he's my father. If not, I have nothing to say to the man.
2006-12-05 23:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would change me, my dad who is not my real dad is my dad...
2006-12-05 23:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's treated you as his own then be ever grateful. You owe him a lot.
2006-12-05 23:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by karen s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋