My Grandmother is a little.. educationally challenged. She has a grade 5 education and had never had a chance to get anything better than that being an old fashioned woman.. No one in my family can stand her, except for me. I'm the only one that calls her, talks to her, invites her over ( her husband died in 96 and she's all alone). She has 5 kids that don't call or talk to her, my mother being one of them.
My sisters are all very rude to her, she's deaf in one ear and like I said, she's challenged and doesn't understand many things. Christmas time is coming and the only time my grandmother is ever invited to anything is the family christmas dinner that everyone in the family attends. This year is going to be another Grandma bashing event like it always is.. and I can't stand it anymore. How do I tell people to leave the poor woman alone without freaking out and ruining the whole party?
2006-12-05 23:13:04 · 6 answers · asked by Imani 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She doesn't understand when people are making fun of her, she laughs along too. But she does complain about how no one calls her but me, and I'm tired of making excuses for everyone to save her feelings.
2006-12-05 23:13:50 · update #1
you are an angel... when everyone is rude and unsympathetic i admire your empathy towards your granny... she may be blissfully unaware of everyone making fun of her.. but i am sure she understand it in her heart of heart .. that's why she loves you too..its so sad to see the elders plight when they are aged specially innocent ones... they have given all their reserves to bring up their kids and its sad that they dont even get love and care from their kith and kin.. the best way is to stick to our principles to educate , create awareness to as many people as possible upholding the virtues of care love and responsibility towards our elders.. this may be a good social cause too for our society... so continue your good work and i am sure one day you will proud of yourself because EVERYONE gets old one day or the other... the earlier we realise the better it is for us.. continue your support wthether people understand or not...as a family game ... you can ask the family to narrate all the good things they remember about your grandma, never any negative thoughts... ask your grandma to sing a old song or any talent she is comfortable with and you can all sing and learn together as a family tradition ... also ask who would help her the most sincerely through out their stay, will get the 'best person' award at the end of their stay... .... i m so happy you are doing your bit and wish you all the happiness with your grandma . i wish even 1% of what i said will help you in your endevour to make everyone stop ridiculing her , i will be a happy person...... all the best ..have a merry x mas and a happy new year.. god bless you...
2006-12-05 23:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by uma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your family how it is.. That is so awful that they make fun of this poor woman..I say do what you gotta do to get these people to understand..I'm glad you stick up for your grandmother. Me personally would go the hell off if these people. They are rude, inconsiderate and ignorant to top it all off.. This woman brought these people into this world. Whether she is uneducated or not, the family are the ones who seem more ignorant than anything..The sad thing is it sounds as if she is pretty old and may not be here much longer.. Cherish all the time you have with her. Good Luck to you dear...I do hope you can get through to your family...
2006-12-06 07:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by Indymom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible, I'm glad that you are mature enough to stand up and protect your poor old grandma. Ask them to just be nice to her, she is the reason that they are all sitting at the Christmas table and eating and breathing, she is the woman who raised your mother and her siblings. My Grandma and Nanna are quite old-fasioned but everyone in my family loves them and shows them respect. I bet your Grandma would get very excited to go out at Christmas and to receive phone calls, especially if she's lonely. I think you're family are horrible to say rude things to her and then laugh when she doesn't understand. Shame on them.
2006-12-06 07:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love Gramma as much as I suspect you do then forget having Christmas with the family and treat her to s special Christmas Dinner with just the two of you.. Find a good restaurant or cook one yourself. When the rest of the family wants to know why you two are not there tell them it is because they are a bunch of rude jerks for treating Gramma like that.
2006-12-06 07:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by kdddavswife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue with your kindness to her. At the family gathering, show a loving spirit towards her even when bashing occurs. Don't let your anger towards other family members take over your love and compassion towards her. If you can, get her involved with a local church group where she can develop friends and feel less lonely, less dependent on family contact. Many churches have food pantries and craft projects to raise money for others less fortunate. One doesn't need to be a rocket scientist to participate. It may take up some of your time to get her started, but later the church community will probably take over to provide rides to meetings, etc. Your love and compassion are a gift to her and this world. Thanks for being you.
2006-12-06 07:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jesse2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet with your family and tell them just how it is and that you're not going to put up with their BS anymore. Tell them if anyone has a problem with that, take it up with you right here and now. Tell them too that some day they will be old....what goes around comes around. So remember that and stop acting like they're better than anyone else. Remind your grandma's children that if not for her, they wouldn't be here.
2006-12-06 07:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋