I feel bad with my father. He was very strict with me and he is so mean. He was with a good lawyer?

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for 20 years but didnt make a nice career. He was good in paying the fee but always says only studies can do and didnt allow me to take part in sports. He is very arrogant and wants to follow him things which are stupid. He is not matured. I regret for my mother for marrying a loser. She doesnt say to me anything bad abt him. If I do she subdues me harshly or coolly. He cant understand certain things in life. I have stopped talking to him. But that cant make it to what he has done I wud not perform the funeral rites - let someone do it. I sound silly but I made up my mind. He is a real stupid.

I want to hear what u say

Answer 1

What's your question?

Answer 2

U should shower love on him as he is growing old. U will realise that he has so much of love on u and that is why he behaves like that. He must have been brought up like that. Now u feel to have a little bit of freedom and if u have started earning try to participate in the sports u love thr'u ur company or joining a club. If ur really generous then u can help a poor boy who is really interested in sports. Try this and u will start loving ur Dear Father.
Father is a precious gift which u must presevre with happines. To be more precise i see from close quarters a boy growing up who has lost his father when he was just 2.5 yrs old. Imagine about that boy and u will really change ur heart.

Answer 3

if he is a loser or stupid is not for u to say. i think he is a good man because he has taken good care of u so far. tell me which father doesn't likee his offspring to follow his footsteps? this is the standard hope of every father on earth. may be he has been a bit harsh on you that too because of your own well being. what u need to do is to search for someone whom ur father respects and make him impress ur father to give u some space. being 20+ and treated like a child is really bad. if ur father sees ur point of view through the counselling of someone he likes, probably you will get the space u deserve. for all u care, he must be boasting to his own friends how proud he is of you, his adult son. don't worry, as far performing his last rites, u will be the one who will cry the most because you will realise ur father's worth only when he will be no more. never say he is stupid, he is more affectionate thanf most fathers are, it is just that he cannot express it to you properly, probably due to his own ego. and never talk anything against ur own family in your life - if and when u are in trouble, only your family will come to your aid. and it is bad manners also. you are equally arrogant by your own conclusions. think about it.

Answer 4

He's had more influences in his life than from the time of your own age, and you seem to be allowing yourself to disrespect the reasons he's come to whatever conclusions he has come to. It might help to talk with him while keeping an open mind as you are his child and always will be. I think he's trying to raise you the way he thinks is right from his own lifes experiences, and sure times change, and while professional sports may be a lucrative career for you, it may be farther out of your reach than something you have a greater aptitude for, and perhaps with a bit of discussion you can come to agreement rather than dismiss him as stupid. My own father died without me able to let him know how much I loved him, as he was in a coma for a few weeks. I just know that no matter what you think you're feeling now, there will be a time you won't have more time to discuss anything. So, do it while you can, and get along as best you can as he will always be your father.

Answer 5

It's very sad to read that u feel so negative about ur father. I would not like to lecture u about it but would just advise u to go down memory lane and visit ur childhood and try and list down 10 good things about ur dad....no matter how difficult and impossible the task sounds...and then u may be able to see him in a better light. Just remember in a few years from now u too will be a parent and God forbid may have a child who thinks of u in da same way that u think of ur dad and then u will realise how much u break ur dad's heart by thinking so badly about him!!!!
By the way u have a wonderful mother who also loves and respects her husband and think of how much u are making her suffer emotionally by ur thoughts and behaviour.

Answer 6

Fathers have the best hopes aspirations at heart for their daughters and sons, most do not know what to do or how to go about.

Time is the best healer, so give it some time.

You will have your chance to parent your children, learn from his mistakes, you may make your own in the process and find out that he was strict but right, then again, you may make batter parent because of his mistakes.

Be generous. Forget and forgive, in many respects he was good, take a paper and pencil, write something good, some nice times you had because he was a good provider. Good education, good but strict up bringing and write what you hated, keep it, correct it and use it to up bring your children.

Answer 7

donot fee hesitate my dear. Go through ur fathers advice but be together with him if he advice a nice way. And also tell him abt the present world. A very competitive world that is filled with full of competition. Tell him abt ur dream and if he disagrees with u take him to an educated one who knows very well abt the theme or the way that u r thingking. Give him better advice. It will be in yr hand. And also stick on to a field itself dont jump here and there..OK

Answer 8

God help all those parents who have selfish, self centred children. I am sure somewhere your parents must have gone wrong in your upbringing that you speak of them like this. You should be ashamed of yourself. You should talk about him with respect.
You call your father arrogant and not matured and stupid. I think it is you who is being arrogant, not matured and stupid. Have you asked your mother if she is happy with your dad or it was your own minds manifestation that she is unhappy and has married a looser.

Instead of winning your father love you write your question which shows nothing but frustration. He who brought up, paid for your education, worked hard for you and wanted to you to become something in life is a looser? Ya i guess he is after all he has a son like you.

Sorry to be harsh but being a parent this is what i felt.

Answer 9

Mate u need to grow up, Your father paid your fees and supported you , you admit that. Arent u following his footsteps and being arrogant and stupid too, by deciding that you will not perform his last rites.

Answer 10

don't say like this 4 your father ,he is ur dad ...he knows very well what is good 4 u why r u so much angry with him,wt he did ,he want u 2 be successful person in ur life .this is the reason he is strict with u, u can't understand the feeling of mom n dad ....jab tak tum kud dad nahi banoge...if u have intrest in sports u can take it side by side, education is also important 4 u ...to be successfull in life . don't say bad words 4 ur parents ok ...its not good ,respect them..in every way...proove urself infront of them if u can, don't stop talking wd ur mom n dad ,they want ur better ..thats it..good luck.

Answer 11

Your thought process is difficult to follow...Try to remember that you are not your father and you don't have to be like him in any way. Just try to learn from what you perceive to be his mistakes and try to not repeat them in your own life. I'm sure your mother had her reasons for marrying this man and staying with him all this time, they are her reasons and none of your business unless she talks to you about them herself. Perhaps you need to distance yourself from your family to gain some perspective about them and even maybe some counseling for the issues you have with your father. Please don't be so bitter towards either of them, they might not even realize what they do.