My man works shifts, however he says his prime sexual urge is around mid day. I work Monday to Friday so sex is limited to evenings and weekends. If he has a **** during the day, he doesnt want sex at night. I dont have a problem him wanking but I do if then come the night time hes not interested. I then get pissed off cos my sex drive is much higher than his. He then tells me to satisfy myself if I want it that bad which I think is selfish.
Please feel free to give your opinions cos this is doing my head in. Boyfriend and I have been together 2 years
2006-12-05 22:51:36 · 17 answers · asked by n c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's quick, he gets off, and doesn't have to do as much work as sex. So I can see why he does it, but it is selfish of him. He should at least give you oral or something in the evening even if he doesn't want to have sex.
2006-12-05 23:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is being really selfish!! If he knows that he wont fancy sex after having a **** during the day then he shouldn't do it!! Its not fair on you!!
I would suggest getting a vibrator and satisfying your self and dont have sex with him at all until he learns to keep his self under controll during the day!! Good luck x
2006-12-06 06:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen.
First, there is NO EVIDENCE he is cheating, so get those ridiculous answers out of your head.
Masturbation CAN be addictive. And it can cause problems.
First, it's quick, easy, and all about him. Not to say he doesn't care about your sexual needs(although it sounds like he doesn't) it's just that a guy can whack and be done in a couple minutes.
Also, if he is doing it often, it is likely that he is becoming desensitized....and he will have issues maintaining his erection when inside of you.....this could be something he is afraid of..no man wants to not to be able to perform.
Wish I had an answer. Biggest thing is to work hard to entice him sexually when he comes home.
2006-12-06 07:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by supermike80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be really pis#ed if my boyfriend did that to me, it's so less satisfying for women to do it themselves, is he really doing it in the middle of the day without you???? how sucky is he.......
Maybe add a bit of spice into your sex and show him what he's missing out on..... i can't believe he tells you to do it yourself when your horny i would just jump my man and get rough with him men are always typical men when it comes to sex, remember that......... there should be no asking involved just do it..... famous words of nike ha ha that was corny yeah......
my boyfriend would much rather the real thing than mrs palmer and her five daughters for sure but all guys are different.......
Maybe if he's at home by himself hes just doing it out of boredom..... but i'm pretty sure guys like it forceful and rough and that should get him going don't let him get away with pleasing himself all the time sweetie you have needs too....
good luck and all the best..
Ibanez xoxo
2006-12-06 07:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by ibanez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriend is being very selfish as he only wants sex on his terms. What you should ask him is what he thinks about when having this phantom sex at midday. Perhaps he thinks about doing things or have things done to him that you will not or can't do. Masturbation is pure fantasy but is often based on fact. Maybe you should think of ways to play him which will want him to wait till evenings.
Have a happy Christmas.
2006-12-06 06:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe he's telling YOU that you are selfish. Come on. He's the one being selfish & most men would LOVE to have a woman that has a high sex drive. Men expect you to give it to them when THEY want it. So, therefore, they should return the favor when YOU want it. That's my opinion.
2006-12-08 15:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jaysangl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well safe sex is in the palm of your hand... go out one weekend book a hotel room and spend the entire weekend satisfying each other.... impress him enough and he might just change but at least you will get your rocks off
2006-12-06 06:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a bit selfish. Why not ask him to rub and finger you? Maybe then he may just get the urge to really SATISFY you.
2006-12-06 07:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't cheating on you then you're lucky, satisfy yourself. Some times I don't even get weekends and evenings cause my girl works nights
2006-12-06 06:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop Wan*ing during the day and wait until you get home and you can both enjoy it together. he sounds very selfish AND lazy to me. if he loved you the way he should then he'd rather wait until you got home. i'd dump him and find somebody worthy. good luck x
2006-12-06 06:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by dubgirl26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋