We started sleeping together about 2 months ago, but we always got on really well before that. I'm 16 he is 46 and he has kids older than me and it wsn't planned but it happened and I would die for him and although I'm still seeing him I want it to go much further and I want to be with him and I just can't and its killing me. Help.
2006-12-05 22:45:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-05 22:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by sahajrob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's willing to sleep with you after your mom, thats kinda freaky,although it depends on how long they were bumpin' uglys' first. but think about it your 16 when your 20 he'll be 50!Honny, at 16 your going to encounter so many people in the years to come and trust me there will be others. At his age he won't be wanting the same life style as a 16 year old, like going to parties the mall or hanging out with friends.I'm 20 and my boyfriend is35, but we've been together for 4 years, and about 4 years ago I stopped hangin' and all that stuff and became a step mother to 2.One is only 4 years younger then me.I love my family. But you would relize after the fact that being with someone 30 years older,love or not, it's not what you want.
2006-12-06 07:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by phatbuttgirl1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still young and I don't think you're in love with him..you're probably infatuated with this guy and I think it's pretty disgusting that a 46 year old man would even THINK of sleeping with a 16 year old girl. What the heck are you doing having sex in the first place? Listen..he's already lived his life and you're still just starting yours. It will hurt for a while but you gotta let this man go and to make matters worse..this guy use to date you mother??? How do you think your mother will feel about that? I really hope everything works out for you. you need to be around people your age.
2006-12-06 06:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh difficult... That sound like it might be a very fraught relationship. It depends really on if your mum is over the relationship. At the moment you need your mum more than you need him and at 16 you are likely to change your mind about what you need from relationship in years to come. Is this really worth the possible stress it would cause you and your mother? For example in 10 years time, you are likely to want to have children, he probably won't. I know that seems a long way ahead but a bit of pain now might save you a whole heap of it later.
2006-12-06 06:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to end this now. This guy is 46 and you are 16 in most states he could go to jail for what he is doing. You may think you love him but it sounds to me the kind of love you are looking for is a father to a daughter not a sexual relationship as husband and wife. I am sure if your mother knew she would tell you this guy is using you, and not because the two of them are not together any more but because what he is doing is so wrong. Maybe you need to find out why your mother and him are not together any more, that might shade some light on things for you. You really need to talk to her and stop seeing this guy now. He does not really love you or want to be with you he is using you. I hate to be blunt but this guy needs to be slapped. TALK TO YOUR MOTHER and maybe the two of you need to get some counseling.
2006-12-06 06:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i think u should dump hes ***. your too young to be going out with a 46 yr old when ur just 16. hes most prop taking advantage over u cos of ur age. dump him and find another guy someone ur age.
2006-12-06 07:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Yes I see this working out for you when he's 70 old and wrinkled and cant do anything or work. Well you will be 40 and life begins at 40. Yep you go for it. I wonder why he is your mums ex?
2006-12-06 06:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by Bev J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 much trouble and pain wit dat 1 but i really do hope it works out 4 u
2006-12-06 06:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run girl.
Don't get caught up in this.
He should know better.
Please go talk to your counselor at school.
Think about your family and his family.
You are 16. Are you ready for a baby?
You should not be sleeping with him, and he should not be sleeping with you!
2006-12-06 06:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Briana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to leave him...u may suffer some days...better than suffering around all ur age
2006-12-06 06:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does not love you.
u are immature enough to understand.
do any of two thing
enjoy but not seriously
or leave him, he is not trustworthy
2006-12-06 07:04:27 · answer #11 · answered by sk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋