Just checking the modern etiquette!! The bride and groom were married in the summer and no thank you notes have been sent...we personally don't really care, but maybe some might, especially the grandparents who were far more generous than normal..any feedback?
2006-12-05 22:31:12 · 5 answers · asked by basport_2000 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Most people believe they have a year to send them. But waiting that long is in really bad taste.
My husband and I are "old school", if we don't get thank yous for the wedding presents, don't bother inviting us to house warmings, or your 1st child's confirmation, we won't be opening our checkbooks again.
Etiquette is etiquette, modern or old, proper thanks shouldn't have to be regulated by a set of codes, it should come from your feeling grateful that anyone loves you that much.
2006-12-05 22:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a fallacy that the bride and groom have a year to send thank you notes. Well wishers have a year to send the gifts. Brides and grooms should respond as soon as possible.
It is extremely rude to wait more than 3 months and unless there is a legitimate excuse for it, the bride and groom are angering lots of people -- particularly older people. This rudeness may come back to haunt them later when they have babies and people reduce their gift due to earlier rudeness.
It is totally WRONG to think that 'modern etiquette' says you don't have to send out thank you notes. Where is that modern etiquette from -- the barn?
If you don't want to write thank you notes, then don't accept gifts.
2006-12-06 11:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by Karen L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Modern ettequite still says that brides and grooms have to send thank you cards in a timely fashion. Usually after their honeymoon and they have openend their presents. If no one has seen a thank you card yet, chances are they're not sending them out.. which is simply bad manners. If you're close to the bride and groom, ask them if they've sent cards too (selected generous grandparents) and if they say no, tell them it would be nice if they did.
2006-12-06 07:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them after the honeymoon. You don't have to work on them during the honeymoon, but no more than a month after the Honeymoon. Everyone that gave you a gift gets a thank-you, and I think it would be nice to give those who helped pay for the wedding a small gift.
2006-12-06 09:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think we forgot to send our thank you notes out too. we made half of them and then never finished so if anyone is reading this fromt he wedding THANK YOU for the gift.
and if i were to give you an answer i would say modern day etiquette says probably no thank you notes will be sent. but se still appreciate the gifts.
in the movie you me and dupree he didnt even send out thank yous he had his friend do it months later
2006-12-06 06:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋