Does it make a man stay? Because my best mates EX girlfriend is pregnant, and I just found out that she got pregnant after they split up, she cheated on him with his best mate last year and he found out in march and then they split up, but remained friends, and then she got pregnant in April!!!!!!!!! They are not together but are still friends.
2006-12-05 22:03:48 · 47 answers · asked by the_questioner 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
she is not my friend!!! the father is my best mate! read my Q properly plz
2006-12-05 22:12:38 · update #1
Reading carefully as you request: "she cheated on him with his best mate" AND he is your "best mate". Does this make you the father?
2006-12-06 22:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When one parent or the other do not want the baby that forms resentment. Just like in a home where two parents fight all the time...the best thing for the children is divorce. Getting pregnant to keep a man will cause resentment and later fighting and the only person that is truly going to be hurt by this action is the child.
2006-12-05 22:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy "questioner"
It happened to me.
Was with a long term partner but on the rocks, we had started seeing others then decided we'd try and get it to work again. Stupid me let it slip to the girl I had started seeing that I'd talked about this to my previous girl and I was considering it. I ended it 2 weeks later but Hey Presto ! 4 weeks later I get a call to say she was pregnant. I found out pretty quick the half finished pack of the pill to prove my suspicions. Naturally I ended up losing the original partner but was given an ultimatum 6 months into the pregnancy to be a full time father or never see the child. Not much of a choice really, so I did the decent thing and let her live with me. Although she had herself convinced she loved me I had never loved her a single day and let 7 years of my life slip by before I realised that I had done enough for my boy to never forget me and to make different arrangements for he and I otherwise I would have no future after my boy was old enough to leave the nest. In one sense I wished I had not been railroaded into throwing away 7 years and taken legal advice when he was born, however I wouldn't have given up the years I had with him seeing him every day of his life. That is priceless. Problem now is I am older now and not the man I used to be and my options for a future are much more limited. That's the bit that scares me now
2006-12-05 22:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by Yeah yeah yeah 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Silly, because it doesn't really trap a man. The man can walk away at any second unlike the mother who will be left to bring up the child that she might not have wanted and only got pregnant to keep a guy or get a guy back.
2006-12-05 23:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The poor little kid, nothing can make any relationship last if both partners are not 100% committed to each other, putting a baby into a rocky relationships, really rocks the boat. Having a baby puts strain on the 'happiest' of marriages at the best of best of times anyway. Although their relationship did not work out, he should still help raise the baby and be a father to the child, it is his responsibility and he should make the most of it, having children has really enriched my rich and brought me so many blessings, may he be blessed with a happy healthy child.
2006-12-06 01:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Claire M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How can you be sure who has fathered this baby? I think a dna test might be necessary! It's a cheap trick - trapping a man by having his baby - but sadly still often employed. Sometimes it does work, but rarely. Mostly men resent the women and don't stay with her. But men must take responsibility as well - there is such a thing as condoms - which they should use anyway to avoid STDs
2006-12-05 22:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by Peace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, getting pregnant to trap a man is never going to work because the guy will feel obliged to stay and it will never be true love, or he will leave them a single mother and that is not very fair to the child, I have seen many a couple of people try to trap men like that and it has always ended in tears.
2006-12-06 05:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This doesnot sound like his baby.... however in answer to your question no getting pregnant does not trap a man and it definitley does not make them stay though usually the good ones do. my babies dad ran a mile when i got pregnant and hes never seen his child. if this is his baby then staying friends is a great and a mature thing to do this is a life after all.
2006-12-05 22:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some do, some do no longer. The retarded poster above me suggested that notwithstanding... he could have wore a condom. i've got self assurance she is unquestionably one of those !@#$% who has intercourse with one hundred whores with a view to get pregnant and cause them to pay pension. so as that they could stay at residing house on a similar time as the different one hundred men artwork for her teenagers. besides, sorry for that ranting. no possible say that maximum women people do this. yet there are some that do. regrettably, even nonetheless i comprehend there are various discrimination's against women people, while it incorporates this, men are discriminated. especially while the alternative on how's gonna save the youngster and who's gonna pay the pension comes. women people are well-known an excellent style of the time... whether at circumstances... they are no longer acceptable to, and whether the daddy needs to maintain them. i think of that's a extreme difficulty that needs to be labored with. because of the fact some somen don't get pregnant to make him stay along with her, they do it so as that they divorce and he will pay her pension. that's unhappy, yet, the guidelines are no longer the two divided... wish this ends quickly. Now submit to in innovations, no longer each lady does that on objective. There are some retards, like the single whoposted above me that did "he could have wore a condom... lol.." and it became into all his fault.. lol...
2016-10-04 22:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Getting pregnant to trap or keep a man is never a good idea. A relationship based on resentment and entrapment will not flourish in the long run. It may survive, but it will not flourish!
2006-12-05 22:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem 100% certain that it's your friend's baby. If it is, then no, it does not make a man stay and I hope he realises that. If he stays when he does not want to he could resent the child which would foster poor future relations.
2006-12-05 23:41:51 · answer #11 · answered by Little One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋