I'm a 26 year old single mum and I am asexual (an odd combination, I know). The problem is that, because I'm a mother, my friends and family assume that my last relationship 'scarred' me, and now I avoid it because I'm too scared of getting hurt. I attempted to date again in the vain hope that they were right, but they're not. I am, what I am.
My friends don't accept this and are constantly trying to set me up and get me to change my mind. My Mother just looks sad when it comes up. How do I convince them that I'm not a man-hater, I'm not gay, I'm not scarred, and I'm not scared? I'm just not interested in sex or having a relationship. They find it inconceivable that my mind never strays to the only thing they deem fit to discuss most of the time...
Any advise would be greatly appreciated.
2006-12-05 21:48:58 · 7 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should mention that all of my friends and family are married and 'happy'.
2006-12-05 21:54:59 · update #1
as long as your happy dont be getting stressed about what others think tell your family and friends how you feel again and tell them thats the last time your going to have that conversation with them if they care they'll leave you alone and let you enjoy being happy.personally i admire you for not needing a man too many people get into relationships cause they feel they have to if more people were confident enough to say what you are there wouldnt be so many broken homes out there stay true to yourself and keep doing what makes you happy good luck with your family and friends
2006-12-05 22:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by keevy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them just what you did here. That you are happy as is, and you will remain happy unless they ask you about why you are not looking for a man.
Tell them when they bring up dating, you feel pressured and uncomfortable. So tell them to please be happy because you are quite happy.
You can also state that after having a relationship which was fairly happy, you find that you are even more fulfilled feeling on your own.
2006-12-05 21:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by a_phantoms_rose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how you feel and that you would appreicate it if they would respect your feelings tell them that you are happy being you and taking care of your child/children my mother did the same to me telling me to meet someone pressuring me i was really firm with her and she finally stopped in the end you need to be firm with them as they think your just putting on a brave face let them know that you are happy being a mum and happy in your own skin and that you dont need/want a relationship right now i know it can be frustrating when they dont listen to what you are saying but dont give in let them know exactly how you feel and to stop feeling sorry for you Most of all dont let anyone pressure you into anything you dont want
2006-12-05 21:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by missletka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you could tell your family memebers and friends that you really appreciate their help in trying to get you involved a new relationship but this is not what you are looking for. I believe that they can understand it and will respect your decision
2006-12-05 21:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you will take on one of their blind dates if you get to pick theirs, then ask "so what is the Manson Family doing these days"? That ought to shut them up for a while.
2006-12-05 21:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by Paul H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't interested in sex or dating, then just say to them, "thanks but no thanks!!!"
Who ever said that you have to be having sex to be happy - okay, it makes me happy, but then we aren't all the same...
2006-12-05 21:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just try explaining to them that it's just too painful for you to go against your nature.
2006-12-05 21:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by musemessmer 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋