I have been friends with a wonderful man for 10 years, on paper is he perfect for me but there is no electricity, I know he will look after me give me a wonderful, loving home with beautiful children, I always thought I would fall head over heels (even though fairy tales are %*)”!? **** and have the happiness I see my friends and family have.
What do you think people?
2006-12-05 21:35:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont do it, you'll be unhappy leave him and destroy him, you need that spark there
2006-12-05 21:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by txc142 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all am sorry for all that has happened, but you shouldn't have ran away when her husband came back cause you were supposed to be with her and maybe things would have been different.Anyways forget that, whatever happened happened. If you find another girl attractive and actually thought of a marriage with her your over your dead love. it doesn't make a difference if its her sister or not, just another girl. Both of you have a past to think about and have known each other for quite sometime and that is either the best thing that will happen to you if you get married or the worst thing that will happen. It's upto you how you will handle it and that you alone can do it. If both of you can forget your past and continue to move on and start a marriage with each other than thats good. If not please find some other girl who you dont know about her past and she doesnt know about you.
2016-05-22 23:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit down and really think about what you want from your marraige, what sort of relationship do you want with your husband and what sort of person you want him to.
If this guy fits the bill but their is no electricity well then at least you will have found a friend for life and who knows maybe you will become more attracted to him once you decide to be with him.
Alternatively you could wait around for the electricity thing and hope that guy is also as good to you as your friend.
I have to point out though that the electricity/spark may not last forever where as a friendship will last longer.
2006-12-05 22:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have the electricity there, you don't want to be a relationship just because it is easy and comfortable. My husband and I have been together 12 years and still fancy him, don't listen to people who say love doesn't last - real love does and there is nothing better than having that love and electricity in a relationship it is just the best feeling. If you marry this man will you always be thinking what if, will you always be looking at other men, never ever settle for second best. If you are scared of falling in love and being hurt what the heck, you only live once and at least you say you have and as the saying goes it is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all - don't miss out on the feeling of deep love and sexual attraction, go out there and find it.
2006-12-06 17:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by radiant 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont do it as it will not last and you will end up being unhappy, what your friends and family have is real love thats why you see them with such happiness. if you're meant to marry it will happen (easier said than done i know) but definitley do not do it out of convenience especially if your only young.
2006-12-05 21:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask yourself if you really love each other. Love is more an action than a feeling. Real love, I think, is where you want to see the person you love be successful, happy and fulfilled, even if that means not being with you. If your love for each other is not like that, but is more "what's in it for me?", then I'd say...don't do it.
2006-12-05 21:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by roadlessgraveled 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it might be worth bearing in mind that its not only your life you're gona f up if things dont go right - if this man loves you - how do you think he will feel when he inevitably finds out that you're not with him out of love - only convenience??
I think if this man is as wonderful as you say then you should respect him and not just marry him for a convenient life for yourself. xx
2006-12-05 22:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convenience: you will enjoy the benefits for a while then get fed up.
Love: you will find new ways of getting the funk into your lives over and over again as long as you live.
Which do you prefer? Decide on that..
2006-12-05 21:42:27 · answer #8 · answered by Tashamster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold out for love if you have love you dont need anything else but without love smallest problems seem like the end of the world nobody gets the 100% fairytale but even 50% aint too bad
2006-12-05 22:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by clairercluck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it the sparks an illusion of nature. Real love grows over time and out of mutual respect.
2006-12-05 21:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara Doll to you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its worked for ten years then theres something there, loves not always butterflys in ur belly respect and kindness is a good start. Think how would u feel if he wasnt there that might help u decide
2006-12-05 21:42:28 · answer #11 · answered by julie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋