I have been dating this girl for four months seriously. She said she had feelings for me when we were just friends but now she says she lost them once she became my grilfriend. She went from kisses and hugs to a cold shoulder that would flash freeze a bull. This started about the same time I lost my job had my car break down and ran into hard times. Since I returned to work, and am fixing the car. She wont talk about the problems or otherwise I ask the right questions and I get the answer of I dont know. to everything right now or no answer at all. I have been great to this girl and have just about put myself in a financal hole trying to make her happy but it seams that didn't work either. I am not tring to buy her love. I just like taking care of her. Now her last words were " She does not feel the same way about me that I feel about her. She did but not now. She liked it better before the bf/gf time."
I am the type of guy that opens doors and takes care of my GF.
2006-12-05 19:52:55 · 22 answers · asked by readyglow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, I used to BE that girl. For your own sake, bail. She doesn't mean to do it tho, you know. It's still no excuse, protect yourself
2006-12-05 19:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seems complicated at first. But stay focus and follow your heart. But let me remind you that you are in for a hard time. Perhaps she is seeing somebodyelse and no longer appreciate the love your giving. Your g/f should be the one taking care of you if you are taking care of her. I suggest that if things doesn't change between you to, just move on my friend. You just cant waist your time thinking that things will change.
2006-12-05 20:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Cooper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as i understand from ur story that ur girlfriend is either need more attention or she want u to understand that she is no more interested in u.
in ur case, u have to ask her a frank question and expect from her to answer u honestly in whether she wants u or not? whether she is seeing someone else and interested in him instead of developing ur relationship?
In case of she doesn't want u anymore, then, better for u to start forgetting her althought i know it is hard but we have to accept the fact and always remember that if not today then tomorrow is holding a better opportunity.
In case of she want u creative in loving her, then, u should do the best and if u r doing but not succeeding or u can not do so then u have to tell her that i am what i am and i can not pretend to b someone else just because u want me to.
So, best of luck.
2006-12-05 20:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lonely S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women are turned off my men's failures. I know it sounds selfish but its true.... perhaps she feels embarrassed by admitting she is being selfish and prefer not to talk about it.
If you were successful she would feel very attracted by you. Is not just about what you can or can't provide for her but also how you find yourself doing this....asking money for friends or banks and not being able to pay it back? That will turn her off.
If I were you, I would get her out of my life for once and get someone better for me. I would not even consider friendship...friends are not like that neither.
2006-12-05 20:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what she is trying to say when she said "like it better before:" means "lets just be friends"
and... she doesn't have feelings for you anymore... could be because of your financial breakdown or somthing else.. but what i see here is that if she really loves you... she should be by your side.. no matter sunny or rainy... the weather doesn't matter.
once she has told you that she doesn't like you that way anymore... why still keep her? why be in a relationship that is not mutual at all.? might as well respect her wishes... you wouldn't want her to pretend to like you too... that would hurt even more..
you deserve someone who loves you back equally.
2006-12-05 19:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an enabler, and you are letting her walk on you. That means you are too nice for your own good. Grow some huevos and move on. Think of the joy you will feel when you finally are 'equally yoked' to a great gal who doesn't drain you, but enlarges you instead. They are out there.
2006-12-05 20:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are no longer the bf.....I think that it is time to cut your losses and move on with your life...If someone loves you, they don't treat you badly or get cold towards you when you experience difficult times, they get closer and want to help you through it...she is too young or immature to be in a serious relationship.....so, move on and good luck
2006-12-05 19:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would return as friends, instead of losing her all together. If you decide to remain friends give yourself time away from her, so you can get your feelings together. I was in the same situation. we went back to being friends. I'm glad we did because hanging out with him I found out what an *** he can be.
2006-12-05 20:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WALK AWAY. I hope that is clear enough. You are asking for permission to leave, you have it.
She has told you she is no longer interested, so why do you do this to yourself? The good news? You're a guy, there are women out there. Unhook the albatross and get out there.
2006-12-05 19:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, this a no brainer....By the way I like guys that opens my door and takes care of me...and I'm not the only one, you can do way better
2006-12-05 20:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋