and save our relationship, and should I even try? The guy is a chronic liar. Like about everything. Big important things as well as small insiginficant things. I have talked to him about it over and over again. The scary thing is maybe he doesnt even realize he is lying. Is this possible? I can catch him red handed and provide proof, and he still maintains that he is telling the truth. Is this a losing battle or is there a way to stop this? Help, because I am ready to call it quits.
2006-12-05 19:34:12 · 17 answers · asked by meeahcat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He isn't lying to you he is perfect evertying is ok and you have a perfect relationship....get my drift?
2006-12-05 19:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The 2nd biggest lie on earth is that people can change (the 1st being that women don't fart).
Seriously though, you cannot change anyone. You may be able to get them to not be themselves for a bit, but that's it. People have a difficult enough time changing themselves, so it's arrogant to think we could change someone else at all.
A little Devils Advocate for you. You don't like his behavior? You change so that you do like it. No so easy is it?
If you can't live with it, move on. Yea, it stings a bit, but if you have some feelings of self worth, you will quickly realize you don't deserve anything less than what you expect from yourself. It sounds like that is currently not the case.
Life is to short to "work things out" all the time. be happy, get what you want out of life, because we are only here for so long. Don't buy into the Hollywood drama (although 16 Candles was good). You knew the answer to this before you asked it, but if I can be the nudge you need to find your happiness, I'm happy to do so.
2006-12-05 19:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change him; you can only change you in regards to how you choose to deal with him or not. It is scary to think that he may not know he is lying. This problem is a very deep seated issue and is nothing that you should try to find out. You are fighting a losing battle and the only question you need to ask of yourself is if you can emotionally weather this storm. If he were to go into therapy, it will still be a Category 5 hurricane of issues.
2006-12-05 19:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you advise a close friend on this? Trying to take a neutral position apart from your situation might help you see what seems so obvious to most everyone else. If you don't have much trust and honesty in a relationship, then the relationship is doomed to fail. And apparently there is something about him that attracts you to him so much that you have tolerated this huge negative for too long. Just think about it...
2006-12-05 19:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by Michael C. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For chronic liar's it is possible to not realize your doing it. Like Mary J Blige said "No More Drama". You will be better of not with him. Then maybe he will realize what happened.
2006-12-05 19:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by DLB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are with a pathalogical liar....it is an illness....and your are correct...they will defend their lie to the dealth....It is truely amazing...but the minute the words are out of their lips, they are convinced it is the truth...when it's a total lie. You can't change someone like that and it will only get worse....Get out while you can because he will only continue to disappoint you and break your heart...good luck
2006-12-05 19:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!!! The truth is subjective. If you asked me what color the sky is, I could tell you blue, purple, red, black or gray, and they all would be correct. If you asked me what time it is, and I told you noon, when your watch says 12:30, your watch could be wrong, and i'm sure it's noon somewhere. BE SPECIFIC.
2006-12-05 19:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should teach him a lesson and if he really loves you he'll change..
the saying that "if you love someone the you should accept him" is not appropriate for this i think because lying is a big deal..
2006-12-05 19:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by '-baby_koh'- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs professionsl help if he doesn't even realise he's lying. If I were you I'd cut my losses and leave.
2006-12-05 19:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by michelle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to go see a shrink, I have an ex like that, he needs help!
2006-12-05 19:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tough one. It depends whether he wants help. If he doesn't think he has a problem I don't see and hope of fixing this.
2006-12-05 19:37:12 · answer #11 · answered by s_k_wilson1990 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋