Is it wrong to flirt but not cheat?

Question

I've been with my girl for a year. I love her. I swear i do. BUT I flirt with other girls, get them to like me, and then I "leave em" cuz i dont wanna cheat on her. I think I do it cuz I like the feeling of getting girls to like me. Most of the time i feel bad for both of them, cuz i have a feeling what im doing is wrong. AND if it is wrong how do i stop if i live in south beach, work in a hotel, and see hundreds of beautiful women a day??

Answer 1

IT SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOU ARE JUST A FRIENDLY KIND OF PERSON,AND A LITTLE FLIRTING DOESNT HURT ANYTHING,I ADMIRE YOU FOR NOT CHEATING,NOT MANY GUYS OUT THERE WOULD BE FEELING BAD JUST FOR FLIRTING,THEY WOULDNT EVEN THINK TWICE IF THEY ACTUALLY CHEATED.I THINK YOUR LADY IS VERY LUCKY TO HAVE A GUY LIKE YOU.

Answer 2

In my opinion, a little bit of flirting isn't wrong, but I think you are taking it a bit too far. innocent flirting is ok, especially if it's just your personality, but if you do it to the point of making the other girls like you, and you KNOW that's why you are doing it, that's not right. It isn't fair to the girls you are leading on, but more importantly, it isn't fair to your girlfriend that you love. Another way to tell that you are taking it too far is that you mentioned that reason why you feel that way, and the reason is probably a valid you feel guilty about it. If you feel guilty, chances are there is a one. Personally, I don't flirt (or try not to at least) since I'm in a relationship and I love my boyfriend very much. Also, if my boyfriend flirted, I would get a little jealous.

Answer 3

If you feel bad about something, you can trust it's not the right thing to do.

That being said, I don't think there's anything wrong with a *little* harmless flirting every now and then. It sounds like you go far beyond that...and are walking into temptation. Maybe some self-esteem issues that you need to confront? (I'm not being mean. We all have them from time to time.)

I guarantee you that your girl will not see what you're doing as loving her... When you find yourself doing it, think about how you would feel if your girlfriend was in the room...watching. If you really love her, that will make you stop. If you don't, it won't.

Answer 4

There is such a thing as emotional cheating and to alot of women it could be worse then actually cheating. I would say step into her shoes and think how you would feel if she were doing the same or something like it to you. It isn't a nice feeling. I know it feels good to know that you are desirable to other women but taking it beyond the point of harmless flirting is flirting with disaster. Someday you are going to flirt with the wrong girl and your girl is going to find out. It won't be a fun situation.

Answer 5

Cut your girlfriend loose- tell her you're not ready for a serious relationship because YOU ARE NOT. If you are tempted daily by what you see and work with, you cannot handle a serious commitment. Break it off-- be single and get it out of your system- if that is possible and become a man- of honor, integrity and able to commit to one woman-- and that means not rubbernecking your head off when a pretty girl walks by---- so uncouth and so immature so dont stay in this relationship--- your speech tells me you are still in your 20-s or 30-s at most--- you hve plenty of time for a serious relationship-- and you will know when that happens--- you will not stop thinking about her and guess what-- you wont even SEE the other girls

Answer 6

Flirting is not usually wrong, but in your case, you seem to be doing it to boost your self esteem. That suggests that you might have a problem with your confidence in how girls see you. Think about that for a while, and see if you can boost your opinion of yourself by remembering how loveable you are and what a great guy you are. Then, you can flirt, but you won't need take it to the point of hurting people's feelings.

Answer 7

It depends on how your girl feels. If she hates you flirting then it will ruin the relationship. I hate it when my guy flirts. But my girlfriend flirts and her guy flirts and no one is angry or hurt. In a good relationship people talk things out, If you need to flirt and she will always be hurt-you can try to change or decide that it would be better for both of you to find someone else. Good luck.

Answer 8

Your gut feeling is usually the right one. Stop flirting b/c it is cheating.. You are emotionally cheating on ur girl. How about you let ur gf fulfill the emptyness you are having by opening up to her and putting your trust in her? Quit kidding yourself. Hopefully you can figure out what you think you are missing before you lose your girlfriend that you "love".

How would you feel if you found out she was doing what you are?

Answer 9

SIMPLE! you wont like this but.. flirting is cheating.. dont talk to a girl.. now you can be nice.. and not cold.. because even though your gf comes first above anyone else. still treat everyone with respect and put them before you because she will expect you to treat her the same way.. she notices those things.. but flirting is wrong if your dating sum1 thats putting yourself into a bad position where cheating could happen because you will be tempted in it. dont flirt with another girl. its cheating ok? lol

Answer 10

The easiest way to answer that question is to ask yourself how you would feel if your girlfriend did exactly what you are doing. If you can honestly say that it wouldn't bother you, then you're probably not crossing the line - because unless you are dead, everybody flirts with the opposite sex. But if you have to answer that question that it does bother you, then you probably can figure out the answer to your question. What is good for the goose is good for the gander!!!