I have tried internet dating for 2 years. I am 35 and have been told I am a great friend and I know men find me attractive but I will not date men who are married or in a relationship. have been careful to meet guys for coffee first after e-mailing, chatting on the phone etc. I have met four guys that I like but the last 3 have been cheating on me with their ex wives or other women. It has usually come to light after a couple of months. I always hold back, get to know the guy over a few weeks etc. Maybe it's just bad luck but I met a guy a few weeks ago and we have met up 3 times over the last 3 weeks and got as far as kissing and cuddling, going to the cinema, out for drinks, meals etc. I was shocked when a good friend of mine confided that this guy had been e mailed her via the same site this week. I confronted him and he was very apologetic and said he wanted to get to know me and did a stupid thing. I feel hurt and confused. I really thought we had something. Any advice?
2006-12-05 19:04:34 · 9 answers · asked by Sarah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like a serial monogamist. A lot of men do not think like that. They will date multiple women until they find one they want to settle down with. I mean, really, at first you'll only see the guy once a week, so what's he supposed to do with his other 6 nights?
A couple of rules:
1) Nothing is ever implied. If it's not discussed, don't assume anything. Meaning that pretty much everyone is dating/sleeping with others when you first start dating them.
2) Don't discuss rule #1 until you're sure you want an exclusive relationship with that person. Or you're sure that you want to sleep with other people...
3) Don't be needy.
2006-12-05 19:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by Quagmire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online dating is not necessarily crap. I dated my last boyfriend for over a year and I met him online. You just have to be careful. If you decided to meet, you need to meet somewhere where there is a lot of people and don't go anywhere with them at first. I mean, that is pretty much the rule of thumb with anyone though. Just be careful. If you are scared that you are one of many... thats honestly something you have to worry about with any man... ya know? Because it's online too, he probably has talked to some different women. Neither of you can really know if you guys are good for each other until you meet. So if he IS talking to different women online he may just be keeping his options open until he meets someone he really likes. Like I said before... just be careful. Maybe go with a girlfriend. It's not bad to throw yourself out there... even if it's on the internet. A lot of people do it. Good luck girl! I know it can be so hard to find somone sometimes.
2016-05-22 23:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin its plain and simple, people on the Internet are not normal. Except me of course, They wouldn't need it if they were any good face to face. Look I'm not saying that you are abnormal in any way But go out thee and meet guys, book shop, cinema, coffee shops, where ever. Get chatting and see people at face value, that way a false picture won't be built in your mind, you can see in their body language if they are truthful or not ETC. Honestly, I met some real Dog last week, and she turned out to be a right old minger and had a rotten attitude. Never again.
2006-12-05 19:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you should try dating guys who are much younger than you are.
Younger guys don't have a lot of money, and they aren't well established in their careers. But many of them are still hungry for a good, sincere relationship with a woman. And with such guys perhaps you can find the kind of love you want.
It's hard to find a perfect man. But when you know what your priorities in a relationship are, then you can find a man who has the qualities which you want the most.
2006-12-05 19:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing applies to finding a genuine single woman , i'v been there all my life , dont despair someone will be right for you someday .
2006-12-05 20:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by nicemanvery 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate when this happens. It happens to everyone. You need to be more selective. I know that great guys are out there....it took me 15 years to find my prince!
Good luck in your quest.
2006-12-05 19:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jusme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very difficult just keep trying you have more guts than me.
2006-12-05 19:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you just have to keeep trying to happenes to all of us.so don't worry he will come.
2006-12-05 19:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u mean they exist???????????
2006-12-05 20:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋