Ok im in love with my best guy friend of two years. 1) i told him i liked him 3 times, the first time he said K... the second i see you as a sister but no more than a friend and no less than a friend.. the thrid time he said idk who i like but no matter what we will always be friends...2) well the other day he kisses me unexpectedly and we made out for a while and i stopped and said whats happening and he said idk so we held hands and he had his arm around me.. then he kisses me again unexpectedly and we make out and so on he fingers me like a bunch.. i told him we couldnt have sex bc it was all too much at once for me and im not a virgin and he is.. but anyways it was weird i guess. but he was cool with that we just held each other actually he held me..3) the next day he says sorry i wasnt myself and it shouldnt of happened. Ok i was then confused. 4) during the makeout and holding part he said we couldnt date and i was cool with that bc I didnt want to sound like I was hurting
2006-12-05 19:00:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
5) he told me the next time he ever kisses anyone it will be his girlfriend.. and also he said he wouldnt ever date anyone from our hometown
6) Im so confused with him does he like me or what?
7) I never thought this guy would kiss me or want to be with me, he said u have a great personalitly and i know u care for me.. why would he say that and then the next day say sorry
8) I love him!!
9) Sorry for the long explanation please help
He knew my feelings and he respects them he isnt like other guys i assure u and the reason i didnt have sex was bc he said he was waiting till marriage all the time so i wanted to respect that
we are both 19
2006-12-05 19:01:22 · update #1
IM FEMALE AND HE IS MALE
2006-12-05 19:04:14 · update #2
hmmm....he sounds kinda confused too. and probably horny. he may have some interest in you as more than a friend, but more than likely, he doesnt want to be with you for some reason or another...maybe he likes you guys as just friends, maybe for another reason; that i cant predict. this sounds like a difficult situation, given that you totally love the guy. i would just leave it alone, continue to just be friends. dont make any moves on him. he knows that you like him (you told him THREE times), so its now up to him to make a move if he really wants to be with you. (also, id suggest to definitely not have sex wtih him, and not hook up wiht him....dont go past kissing. you dont want him to get away with making love to you or whatever and then just diss you, do you?) try to move on, and once youve done your grieving and dealt with not being able to be with him, date other guys. he may come around later and realize that he does want to be more than friends. if the feelings become mutual, then start a relationship and have sex....
2006-12-05 19:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by christina rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something a lot like this happened to me once. It really sucks to get an apology from a guy the day after making out with you! That's where our stories are identical. Based on my experience, I think your guy just doesn't know what he wants. He doesn't really want to be with you, but you have made yourself available to him, and guys can't physically handle that well. Their body parts will take over and try to get some, even if their minds are not on board. You should back off and just try to be friends. That worked in my case, and we have now been friends for years, although I have to admit that he only calls me when things aren't working out with his girl. Good luck.
2006-12-05 19:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by - 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think that this boy really likes you but as a friend only. On that day looks like he got in the "mood" and by next day it passed or he "took care" of himself. Be patient and see what happens next. It might be that he has second thoughts about you. Try not to rush things.
2006-12-05 19:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by sdbrian92108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar relationship like that when I was your age. It wasnt healthy at all. One day he liked me and wanted to play with me. The next day he would toy with me. The day after that he didnt know me. Then around and around we went again. I went to his hometown and was invited to stay at his house with his parents and he kept referring to me as "his friend". Stupid me kept thinking that maybe he is calling me "his friend" because he is waiting for the perfect opportunity to ask me to be his girlfriend. LOL.... not quite. He and I finally "did it" and I just assumed that we were together. LOL..... not quite.... again. He told me after we had you know....... "done it" that he didnt want anything serious because he doesnt want it to get in the way of finding a "hot" chick. He said that I was marriage material but not hey my girlfriend is soooooo hot material. Please dont lower your standards. he may be a nice guy but it doesnt sound like he is being too nice. He wants a friend with benefits kinda thing and he is probably curious about having a sexual relationship with you. He feels safe to experiment with you because afterall, you are his bestest bud........he is not trying to impress you so if you like that kinda thing then go for it but if there are matters of the heart included then tell him straight up that if u cant have all of him then u dont want any of him........ tell him u want to be "just friends".... Good Luck and I know this hurts but believe me u will definitely find someone that will want all of u... not bits and pieces.
2006-12-05 19:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by bescakasgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all chemicals it's all hormones. 19 year old guys all we want is sex i think. he's as confused (MORE!) about this as anyone!!!! sex sex sex!!! find some guy who can wait is a man of his word, who likes you for you. he's confused...
he's probably angry to that he couldn't get any. men and women are SOOOO different sometimes. we need some translator. they're right about being from another planet!!!
sorry don't have better advice
2006-12-05 19:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by Wyatt B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after that long interlude. You guys are both young and will experience tons of things. Go with the flow don't think about things to much.
2006-12-05 19:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by DLB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your time when you are with him. But try to forget him when you are not with him. Don't expect too much from this kind of relationship. Try not to call love here, it is only dealing with flirt and he enjoys that! He is enjoying your love and taking it for granted..
Now it's time for you to stand up, love another guy. If you still want to have flrting time with him, up to you. Only you can decide what's best for yourself.
2006-12-05 20:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by yanti b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is long but it sounds to me like you are lacking in simple honest communication. I would say a few more get togethers and things will go fine with you and him. you got a good start so hang in there.
2006-12-05 19:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru something similar. We will be married 14 years on dec 19th... let me leave you with this warning. You should be good enough to be persued. don't Persue him let him persue and win you. Don't make it easy either. YOu set a standard that can last a life time. This was my big mistake.
2006-12-05 19:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there,
Well this is your lucky day! What you need to do is simple.
Flirt with him.
The reason people flirt is it builds sexual attraction. That is what sets you apart from him saying "I see you as a sister". That is a telltale sign you're not flirting and building sexual attraction with him! Guys aren't sexually attracted to their sisters. You have to break yourself out of that "sister" mold.
Now you know what to do to make him yours. Go get em! :)
2006-12-05 19:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by Edward 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋