I hadn't been with a man for along time. I am talking years, my hubby passed away in 1999. I don't want to be rolling in someones bed. But I am lonely. How does an older person get back into the dating scene. It's been along time for me. I am soo rusty. I don't even know what to do anymore. I want to find a real good man not a one night stand. A relationship if possible. Where and how do I start.
2006-12-05 18:53:04 · 15 answers · asked by cnacyn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At 42, both "harmones" and "maturity" may be important. You may be looking for some one with the maturity to Deal with the relationship, at the same time have enough "harmones" in himself to deal with the physical aspect as well. So, the hunt begins with the neighborhood I suppose. Attending parties, and social gatherings including church/congregation could be useful in locating the prospects. On line dating could be useful. Personally I am not very sure of on line dating stuff. In any case, good luck and happy hunting.
2006-12-05 19:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a problem at that age, but not one that can't be overcome.First you have to leave the house, go to a play,a civic event, like a sporting event,or even a night club. Take a friend, you can't meet anyone if you don't get out there and look.One night stands are not that difficult but finding a good relationship can be, just don't give up, or settle for the first guy that comes along. You have been waiting long enough, and 42 is not that old, think of the things you want to do, and talk to people that have a similar interest, that's a start. Good luck, and don't forget to have fun.
2006-12-06 03:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. But I'm happy for you that you seem to be ready to move on. Be confident. I'm 42 as well and frankly I've never looked or felt better. What is it Jane Fonda says, confidence grows with age. Ok so you've been through a major trauma so you're bound to be feeling a bit sensitive but start gently I'm sure you'll get in the swing.
It might sound obviously but you need to get out and about and meet people. Clubs, night classes, just look for something you enjoy doing, not with a view necessarily to finding a partner. You will meet people who have a common interests and from there who knows. Singles clubs can also be a great way to meet people. A lady I know, around 30 years older than you, met a guy she now lives with at a singles club, she's very happy.
You're not old, and you have a lot going for you. So get out there. All the best.
2006-12-06 03:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am 43....I got divorced when I was 37....My choice :) ! I dont go rolling in beds but i have had several one night stands....mostly with younger men. There is nothing wrong with that. Just take precautions and enjoy yourself....40+ is awesome! I must say, some of the best times I had were with those one nite stands....no expectations....but I chose that and knew that before it happened....sorry I cant tell you how to get back into the dating scene....i have had only 2 people in my life seriously in the past 6 yrs....one i am still involved with. Those just seemed to happen.....i wasnt looking i guess.
2006-12-06 03:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by Pepper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you already started by reaching out with a question, and on top of that you were honest about what you wanted......a relationship. I cant lie that I'm interested as, I myself am a relationship oriented man. I'm not trying to get best answer but lets just chat. Im sure plenty others will respond as well, but I just want to talk more. No Games.
2006-12-06 03:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by SOLO KING 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same spot you are. I am 43, my ex left me over 6 years ago and I have not been with a woman in so long when I do have a first date I am so nervous I screw it up. my hands shake, my palms become sweaty and i loose all ability to form intelligent words. so when you find out how to pick someone up and where let me know
2006-12-06 04:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by jamesarth1963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should not think about having a good man to spend with your life that much. just be patient, i think God will give the right man for you in the right time.don't think about your age, you don't have to worry about that 'coz age doesn't matter when it comes to love. the best thing you should do this time is to engage in some activities that makes you happy. good day!
2006-12-06 03:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by racapok'z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting back to the dating scene is hard. well for men at least. Let me know when you find out ... :D
2006-12-06 02:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by wtf!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many sites for older men and women to find themselves perfect partners. One of these sites is AgeMatch.com
2006-12-06 03:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by APU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I'm in the same situation as yourself. I know how difficult this can be.. Would you like to chat about it? If so, you can email me checkmate929@yahoo.com.
2006-12-06 02:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by checkmate929 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋