There is this guy who says that he really likes me and he wants to sleep with me but I always turn him down. He thinks that I don't like him enough but the problem is that I don't like myself enough and I hate my body and I think he is going to hate it too. I don't know what to do.
2006-12-05 18:51:16 · 25 answers · asked by jlangeforever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
learn to like your body. but you can't learn to like your body on his schedule is the problem. it's something that will take you time like it's taken time for you to learn to not like your body.
you're a woman, that's all it takes for a guy to want you!
good luck to figure out what it is. i guess in this country so many girls don't like their bodies cause of the competition and unrealistic expectations. just remember when you don't like your bodies, we guys can't understand why. we think, 'whaaaaaa????????????' :)
2006-12-05 18:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Wyatt B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way with my boyfriend. I know exactly how you feel. Just explain to him that you feel very uncomfortable and that you don't really like how your body looks. I did that and my boyfriend made me feel so much more confident in myself. He said that I was beautiful and had a beautiful body and that I shouldn't feel uncomfortable. We are still together after two years. Remember, make sure that you are ready. Don't let him sweet talk you into doing anything. If you are ready, then just do what I said. If he is sweet, he will make you feel as comfortable as you need to be. Just have a little confidence in yourself. It will help you in the long run. Good luck!
2006-12-05 18:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Damon ♥ Elena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jessica,
I don't think you should sleep with him just because he wants to...you have to want to also!
HOWEVER, as a guy I'll let you in on something that you should remember for the rest of your life:
Your man doesn't care what your body looks like. If he has to choose between caring about what your body looks like, or having your naked body up against his...he'll choose it being naked against his every single time!
Plus, you can always keep the lights off or just light one small candle. You can also stay under the covers. This way you'll feel more safe and it also sets the mood.
2006-12-05 18:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by Edward 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been dating this guy? Is it love or is it just sex? If it is just sex and you are insecure with your body, you will be uncomfortable from start to finish. If you love the guy and he loves you, it might be embarassing for you at first but you will get over it. First the relationship then sex, not sex then a relationship.
I'm concerned about your body image. If you are really that uncomfortable with your body, you should do something about it. See a counselor to discuss self-image, make a list of the things you like about your body. Do this for yourself, you need to learn to love the skin that you're in.
2006-12-05 18:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by aa_cooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overcome your insecurities- he already has seen your body- guys have xray vision- ask anyone, they'll tell you. If you like him- go for it. His interest in you may be just what you need to build your self esteem because you have serious issues in that department- didn't your mom every tell you that there is not a person on earth that is perfect? (maybe Leonardo Decaprio) but I dont think he's human- nothing bad can come of this - dont be nervous just go out with him and sleep with him-- I have a feeling it is your first time so maybe have a drink or two to loosen you up life is too short to spend it contemplating actions that can make your life soo ooooo much better. trust me. and good luck
2006-12-05 18:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, did he just come out and say we wants to sleep with you? Because that's pretty damn staight foward. LOL. Sike. I have dealt with this a little with some females I was involved in.
You really can't rush things because more women are insecure with their bodies. All the guy can do is wait til you do feel comfortable. If he doesn't unserstand that then you will probably be better off without him.
2006-12-05 18:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by DLB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem with my boyfriend. I'm not always completely comfortable with the way I look, but my boyfriend never complains. He always tells me that I'm beautiful, and if he ever sees me without a piece of clothing on, he always mentions how much he likes my body and how attracted he is to me. If this guy is sincere about liking you, then just try to be comfortable with the fact that, even though you may not be totally comfortable with your body, he does and he's attracted to you. Good luck and remember to always love you for you.
2006-12-05 19:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to what you're saying... but a lot of times we're just overly self-conscious for no good reason. You need to let go of your fears, and I do know that this is easier said than done, but it's the only way. Issues like this will forever prevent you from living and enjoying life how you should be unless you just let them go. And by the way, beauty is in the eye of the beholder... and obviously he must think highly of you since he's not giving up after you keep turning him down. Let go of all your fears and inhibitions and do as you please, do what feels right to you and don't overanalyze it.
Just be safe ;)
2006-12-05 18:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Misheee! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it about your body that you hate do you have scars or something. If so you need to discuss it with him so he dosen't think your rejecting him because of him. Frankly, personally you shouldn't sleep with anyone you don't want to spend the rest of your life with. It is natural for you to not have that trust. He could hurt you deeply and what do you have left? No relationship or one based soley on sex that deteroriates. I hate my body too but that is because i am fat. I am working on it but when I reach my goal weight I will have questions about my body and all the skin and the like too. I will be with you. I know my self worth isn't completely found in this ole body of mine.
2006-12-05 18:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you must reap a few believe in him. If you do not believe him then the intercourse would possibly not consider as detailed most often. It could be very predominant to believe anyone even in the case of sexual matters. And if he cares approximately you he's going to receive you for nevertheless your frame appears . It would not subject to him. You simply must strut your stuff and be positive even in the back of closed doorways with him within the identical room. That's an severe flip-on. If you consider like he's going to pass judgement on you or speak approximately you in the back of your again then you definitely should not have intercourse with him.
2016-09-03 11:43:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, you should learn to be confident with your body. However, you should love yourself well enough not to sleep with just anyone who claims to like you really much.
2006-12-05 18:54:53 · answer #11 · answered by G K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋