My step-sister is 29 and living at home with parents. I am 20 and we were sitting at the table and she pissed me off big time. I could have smashed her face into the back of her skull and wanted to badly. What should I do to get this anger out?
2006-12-05 18:47:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Youre 20 years old and reacting to her like your 10. I think you need to either get some counseling or take some anger management classes.
2006-12-05 18:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing about anger is if you don't squash it when it starts to show up it gets as if you've instead added oxygen to a fire.
Tell yourself that life is short, and she isn't worth getting your blood pressure up over.
People are sometimes told they "need to get anger out" or "go punch a pillow". I've found that letting it out at all just lets it get more out of hand. Again, life is too short. Put it out of your mind. If you get a chance some time to say something that may even the score or make her feel stupid for whatever she did that made you mad then find a way to say it that isn't confrontational. For example: Make up a situation that gives you a chance to say what you want her to hear. Say something like, "I was on my way to work today; and this moron cut me off and almost made me go off the road. I was so mad I wanted to ram his car. Its a good thing I'm the kind of person who just lets crap go and who just figures morons will get theirs. I don't have to dirty my hands."
She'll get the message if you can use this type of technique.
Talk about someone or something that has nothing to do with her, but say whatever you need to say in a way that will let her know, "If the shoe fits......".
For the future: If someone insults you calmly say something like, "I don't appreciate being insulted." If she says something or does something rotten to one of the parents say something like, "You know, what you just did amounted to elder abuse." or "What you just said was really disrespectful to _______". After you say this type of thing just let it go. Leave the table or room if you have to for a little while.
2006-12-06 03:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try using your words with this girl instead of your fist. If that doesn't work then go workout, and listen to some music to get ur rage out... IF that doesn't work, I feel sorry for ur step-sister... Sounds like she might need a swift kick in the pants though so she can get off her *** and get her own place. Good luck to ya!
2006-12-06 02:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by mzagge06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not gunna tell you to get help or read self help books. But i think you should really consider anger management, or get a punching bag or something, me being only 16 i took it out on my walls alot. But that didnt make my parents too happy, now that its been done so much, and so many medical bills for breaking my hands and bruising them badly they have just given up. Get a punching bag, itll benefit you and your sister.
2006-12-06 02:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by idontevenknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is really jealous of you, at 29 she cant be to great to be living at home. when people upset us and you know their wrong this is I want to do to, and I dont think you have an anger mangement problem ,thoughts are ok, its the action that follow the thoughts, show some pity for her, practice the look in the mirror, then she will think that their is something wrong her hehehe works wonders, good luck
2006-12-06 05:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Bev J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, counting to ten really does work.
Depending on how angry you are, you may have to count to twenty.
That takes care of the moment -- now you need to work on the long-term problem of dealing with your step-sister without letting her get your goat. She must know what buttons to push, so you need to learn to control your own buttons so you don't lose your temper in the first place.
2006-12-06 06:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't act on the angry feelings, you are in control of them. But if you think you are going to snap, you need to seek help from a professional on how to keep your anger in check. Learn to verbalize your feelings rather than hold them in. You don't have to yell in order to do that. Just, calmly, state your side of things. Then walk away if you have to.
2006-12-06 02:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help with your temper and your thoughts of harming people. Why didn't you just think of slapping her, WHY the exta violence. YOU NEED HELP. You also need instruction in how NOT to over react. Are you a Bully????
2006-12-06 03:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some thing can be over looked! ur a man so don't even think about putting ur hands on a woman! u can and will go to jail. so just walk away!!!
2006-12-06 02:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
laugh
2006-12-06 07:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by bianca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋