I spent a decade trying to let go of a friend who was also an unrequieted love. He kept popping up over and over again, torturing me as you described. Finally, one day, long after I had realized that I would never have love in my life again -if I didn't let go and if I didn't stop playing "what if..." scenarios in my head over and over again- this is what happened: I was lying in bed, obsessing, and I "breathed" the last remnant of the love that i did have out of my system. I choked up what felt to me like a dried up hairball of synthetic fibers, (not really, but that's what it made me think of) and I saw it as the love that I had possessed that was't nourished, that was starved within me for ten years. A dried up synthetic hairball was all that was left of it, and I had to let that "spirit of love" go, to not torture it or myself anymore, and then I cired over the whole miserable experience one last time. But is was a clean cry. Like the Stevie Nicks song that says "when the rain washes you clean you'll know. You will know". the trick is, and it's a tough trick, you really have to want to let go. Now I am free to love again, though I am in no rush, and I'm Thirty! It's a long journey, but you will in time discover its purpose. Chin up, sweetie.
2006-12-05 18:59:15
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answered by ? 5
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There is no right or wrong and definitely no clear cut answer. It's hard and that will never change. The only thing you can try to do is go about your life and do other things that make you happy. That should take your mind off of it for a while. I am currently going through something of the same. I just can't get over her. She is amazing in more ways than one and I just wish things were different.
Hopefully this helps you because it works a little at a time for me.
2006-12-05 18:50:58
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answered by DLB 4
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Have you ever wondered why you find guys who all behave the same way. Have you ever stopped and asked yourself, "Is it me?" I think it could be. Maybe you put off a casual vibe (trying to protect yourself from emotional harm) which creates the situations you describe. Getting over someone is hard and the old saying that time heals all wounds is very true. Take this time of healing from your broken heart to examine your own actions and determine that your next relationship will be different. Stay single for a while, don't rebound. Make sure the next guy is worth it and really put yourself out there, be fearless.
2006-12-05 18:52:20
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answered by aa_cooke 2
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The Beatles' Let it Be. Simply when you consider that it is a pleasant album that I select over the Replacements' Let It Be. I suppose the Replacements' Let It Be is all correct, however is not anyplace close as pleasant as this Beatles' album. Not most effective am I identifying this by means of the tracks at the 2 albums, but in addition by means of the instances they had been recorded below. Which is not consistently considered. The Beatles were not dealing with the high-quality of occasions of their band years whilst this used to be recorded, however they did not permit their emotions for one a different thoroughly have an effect on the album in a bad means or any in my ideas in any respect. They would have simply forgotten all of it and simply left us with Abbey Road, which might have appeared slightly unusual to finish all of it with. It simply does not are compatible as good to me as a farewell like Let It Be, extra like a we're going to see you once more in a couple of months variety of album. The factor is they did not, which used to be very authentic of them. They placed their track earlier than their quarrels. Their variations and wishes to head down their possess roads and simply permit all of it be made the album some thing pleasant. It used to be the final studio album they left us with and used to be a pleasant approach to near up the high-quality band in historical past. Which is strictly why it's awesome personally.
2016-09-03 11:43:12
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answered by Anonymous
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wow, since you are such a succesfful women, i think you should get your mind off of them guys, have fun with your girl friends, i understand it is very hard to forget about someone, you are just feeling that way because you dont have anyone to comfort you at that moment, but you dont need a man to do all that for you, go shopping go out with your friends, and for once just forget about the guys, you should understand and know that people come and go, guys come and go, but dont let that bring you down, you should always pick yourself back up, you know you live a great life and dont let anything or anyone mess it all up. just move on live life with happiness and forget about them, i know its hard but there will be a day when u will forget about it all, just go out and do something, trust me it really works, especially because im only 15 years old, i go through that stuff alot, but remember "KEEP YA HEAD UP" dont let anything get on your mind to put you through the missery you are in, cuz you dont deserve and you know it. forget about it just have fun, that special someone will come soon, before you know it.
2006-12-05 18:51:28
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answered by Anonymous
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you sound exactly like me down to a T! it hasn't gotten any easier for me either. i don't know how to handle the situation...just wait and hope that the ones who make you feel this way come to their senses and let fate take its journey to bring you together forever hopefully...there will always be someone special waiting for everyone and it just might take a while to find them and you'll hit some bumps on the way...just be patient and remember everything else you've got going for you. good luck xoxox
2006-12-05 19:08:38
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answered by ***Miracles Happen*** 2
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really i have done that a few times.. popped in and out of peoples lives.. but only becaues i know i would be no good for them.. i try and come back to see whats goin on and to be a nice friend but i know anything else would be stupid and only hurt them alot. so i wont do it.. I basically split up two friends because they both really liked me and one dumped me before(multiple times i tried to get back together with her) and so i just went to the other and ended up them hating eachother.. so i left and now they are fine.. but i wont do things intentionally to hurt anyone.. at least i wont.. but i try not to get people attached to me.. but thats hard knowing alot of girls like how i talk to them.. wierd. im not a good person at all..
2006-12-05 18:49:47
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answered by AdrianAP 2
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it never easy for anyone to let go of people we feel attatched too. I like to read self help books, they open your eyes to things and personally they help me out a lot.
2006-12-05 18:47:47
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answered by Anonymous
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i kn0w tat feeling.... they just fine & we are the one who suffer..
i even scold God why he is just so cruel(although i know i shoudnt)...i love him so much.. and another gal just take him away by tat easy............... i do nothing wrong in the fact... but why.... finally i realize tis is the love... we might think we are match & suitable but he might not feel the same way... so just let him go off.... luckily we r not get marry or have a baby yet...
thanks god....
honey, make some more frends... u'll know it..
2006-12-05 19:11:05
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answered by Rosia R 6
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maybe its just not the time for love..go on with your life and do other things..focus on what you must be doing...and let love come your way..
2006-12-05 18:47:45
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answered by Anonymous
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